The Job Search: So, difficult child has been looking for a job, she's applied at about 30 places in just the last couple of months. Some applications are duplicates. Places are closing up or letting their people go left and right. And despite "Help Wanted" signs in windows, the outlook is not so good. She's had a multitude of interviews and nothing every seems to pan out. The Loser Friends: She's not hanging out in the town where her most recent loser-ish friends were (re: monkeyboy and the gang). However, she's found her own little circle of losers right here in her hometown. Though, they are not big into pot and alcohol. I mean, they drink, but they aren't big partiers. IOW, she's not always out and she hasn't been coming home under any influence. The thing that makes these kids losers is that they all seem in a state of flux...not working, or working, but not full time, no direction or school - pretty much exactly like my difficult child. The Car: Her car has been off our insurance for over a month now and since she's not working, it's not looking like it's going to be on the road any time soon. I have allowed her to use my car for job hunting one day a week and one evening a week to meet her one friend at Starbucks. She's been really okay. The Meltdown/Hysterics: None to speak of. She became emotional one day while we were discussing her job situation and another time when we were discussing her old friends. Other than that, she's been pretty even. She was a bit manic the other day; like ants in the pants, she needed to get out of the house bad. I KNOW it was a reaction to her drinking two days before. I see that - I can read it now. I just ignore her when she's like that and if she complains I just tell her straight out "This is how you behave after you've been drinking - it takes a few days to get out of your system and I won't be svcked into the vortex so I ignore you till it's passed". That seems to do it. Her Contributions: She helps around the house, she cleans up for me, cleans up after herself, keeps her room decent, helps me with food shopping, the dogs, etc. Anyway, so what now? We're not enabling, we're not hounding, we're helping when it is absolutely necessary, otherwise, we're giving her all the space she needs to get it together and I think she's moving in the right direction. But we can't make someone hire her. What's next? H gave her some information regarding public service working with Obama's team and having something to do with AmeriCorps. It would provide an income of sorts and be somewhat local and I found it interesting - perhaps she will meet someone or discover something she can be passionate about. In any event, she was frustrated by this, claiming not to be a political person. I explained to her a bit about it and suggested she head to the website to check it out. I am hoping she does. Other than that, however, I have nothing else to offer. Any ideas?