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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 199356" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>OK, what did I miss? Or am I just being forgetful? I'm searching the old posts and don't see the meltdown anywhere. </p><p></p><p>Whatever it was, I trust your judgment to have handed him over to a different living situation. The comment "I have been worse before" is very telling. He sees each incident as it's own, and I'm betting he doesn't hold a grudge against himself when he has been out of line. It sounds as though he was testing to see how far he could go in a particular meltdown before you had enough. You are seeing it as a lifetime of too much. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> </p><p></p><p>I have to point out that he has been treading a thin line between the safety of home and the danger of his own decisions for quite some time. It's just as likely that he would make some stupid decision that would get him hurt while living in your home as he will get hurt in a shelter. In fact, I think it's more likely he would do something stupid and get hurt at home than in a shelter. The hardest thing for him to learn is that no one gives a rats rear about his individuality at a shelter. He's a mouth to feed, a bed to fill, and he doesn't have to be happy about the chores he has to do, the food that they feed him, or the decoration of the room.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how stubborn he is. He may not say a thing to you about how hard it is. I think he isn't going to be a college grad in four years, but he can still be a happy adult. I hope that you won't worry too much, although I know you will worry. {{{{{{{{Big hugs}}}}}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 199356, member: 99"] OK, what did I miss? Or am I just being forgetful? I'm searching the old posts and don't see the meltdown anywhere. Whatever it was, I trust your judgment to have handed him over to a different living situation. The comment "I have been worse before" is very telling. He sees each incident as it's own, and I'm betting he doesn't hold a grudge against himself when he has been out of line. It sounds as though he was testing to see how far he could go in a particular meltdown before you had enough. You are seeing it as a lifetime of too much. ;) I have to point out that he has been treading a thin line between the safety of home and the danger of his own decisions for quite some time. It's just as likely that he would make some stupid decision that would get him hurt while living in your home as he will get hurt in a shelter. In fact, I think it's more likely he would do something stupid and get hurt at home than in a shelter. The hardest thing for him to learn is that no one gives a rats rear about his individuality at a shelter. He's a mouth to feed, a bed to fill, and he doesn't have to be happy about the chores he has to do, the food that they feed him, or the decoration of the room. I don't know how stubborn he is. He may not say a thing to you about how hard it is. I think he isn't going to be a college grad in four years, but he can still be a happy adult. I hope that you won't worry too much, although I know you will worry. {{{{{{{{Big hugs}}}}}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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