That's what she just told me. I'm not exactly sure how to respond to that. Heck, I'm not exactly sure how I feel about it. sigh Seems she's gotten a church to help them find a place to live....help her pay the rent until they get work.....and she said this church was willing to help them relocate back over to here with us. But she's hesitating cuz I told her the job situation isn't much better here. (true) Now I was wondering if this was coming........She mention the last time we talked about moving out of state to see if they'd have better luck getting jobs.....And I took great pains not to volunteer a darn thing. I just told her if they were going to try that to be sure they had someplace to stay while they looked for work. I haven't answered her yet. Mostly because I don't know what I'm going to say. I'd love more than anything to see K and the kids again.....and truely it would be wonderful having the grands here where they can feel part of a family......something they don't remember having and want terribly. And heck, maybe knowing she had family to support her might be what she needs to shed herself of her husband/boyfriend whatever he is. But in all honesty, even if it weren't for what happened in the past.....I would not invite them here to stay while looking for work and a home. Last thing I need right now is 3 kids in the house........and K's husband I'd most likely smother in his sleep the first night. I haven't a clue how one goes about arranging for low income housing from out of state, so I couldn't even tell her if it would be possible to have an apartment ready when she got here. Although they don't have a stick of furniture to their names either. Nor could they get welfare for a period of time.....not sure how long that would be.....so likely no income while looking for work. Plus, c'mon.....I've seen no real change in behavior since they lived here. Their lifestyle is the same, literally hand to mouth. Doesn't take a genious to know her husband/boyfriend doesn't have any desire to work.....Unless he's gone thru all the fast food restaurants there and now no one will hire him. Possible I guess. But he's been out of work for a YEAR. But K knows if she comes back here......welfare will help her go back to school, they will provide her with a car and daycare......they don't have that in Mo. Man. I'm torn between having the family back together......and PTSD from what she pulled the last time. Not fair! I have a heckuva lot better ability to watch over the welfare of Kayla, Alex, and Evan if they're in my own town than I do 2 states away. I dunno. When we were discussing her moving out of state, I suggested she take her mother along. 1. because she's all the family her mother has period. 2. because it just isn't right to abandon her Mom and 3. because that was the main reason K got so homesick last time. I'm not writing her back right away. I need to think on this some. Need to talk it over with easy child and Nichole and get their opinions/feelings on it. One way or the other.......she will not be coming to stay in my house. She ruined ever getting to do that again the first time around. Well.......sh*t. Isn't it lovely that something that should make me happy as a lark has instead got my mind in a tizzy, my emotions in an uproar,....and me feeling like the bottom just dropped out of a boat. If this sounds all jumbled up.....sorry. That's my state of mind at the moment. sheesh.........it's just not supposed to be like this.