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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 310565" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Spoke with easy child for quite a while.</p><p> </p><p>Just sent an email off to K. I laid it all right on the line and was upfront and brutally honest. Anything less would not have been fair to her. </p><p> </p><p>I told her none of us could let her stay with us. easy child and Nichole do not have the room. True. And husband and I couldn't even consider it, we're in a desperate situation ourselves. Heck, I don't know at this point if we will be able to afford Travis coming back for summer.......although we probably will be able to as I know he'd get a job and help. Something I <strong>don't </strong>know with K.</p><p> </p><p>So........I told her having a place to stay <strong>before</strong> she would move here is absolutely <strong>vital</strong>. And having a way to survive until they find work is just as vital. That both of these things need to be settled <strong>before</strong> she would move. I made that very clear.</p><p> </p><p>I told her I was neither encouraging or discouraging her to move here. And I'm not. I told her that it is a decision she has to make. Only she can decide what she thinks would be best for her and the kids. </p><p> </p><p>But I really stressed no one would be taking her in or helping her financially. <strong><em>No One</em></strong>. If she wants to move here that's great, but it's all up to her.</p><p> </p><p>Also told her to contact her wefare social worker to find out the waiting period/services she'd be able to get......Social worker should be able to look it up on the computer and find out. I know here they looked up to find out what services she'd had there cuz I was with her when she'd applied. Last time it kicked in fast......but I think that was because she was pregnant with Alex.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know how people in such a desperate situation manage such interstate moves. I know they do it, I just don't know <strong>how</strong> they do it. Perhaps the church there can contact a church here and work together to manage it.........I know domestic violence shelters do that sort of thing, so I don't know why churches couldn't manage it. Heck, my mom had a japanese friend.......a church paid her way to the states. Paid her way back to Japan several years later........then paid her way back to the states again when her family abused both her and her son. So I know such things are possible.</p><p> </p><p>So now it's in her lap. If she can get a place to live and income until she has a job.......she knows she's more than welcome here. It's all up to her.</p><p> </p><p>But I'll tell you what.......... It makes me madder than hades that I can't just say "K get your fanny over here so you're not isolated and alone!" Nope, can't say that. Don't dare say that. Instead I've got to neither encourage or discourage..........</p><p> </p><p>And hope she goes about it the right way. Cuz if she just shows up here thinking we won't let them be on the street, she's got a rude awakening. The kids won't be on the street, but she and her husband/boyfriend most certainly would be.</p><p> </p><p>Dang. A person should never have to think like that when it comes to their own kids.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 310565, member: 84"] Spoke with easy child for quite a while. Just sent an email off to K. I laid it all right on the line and was upfront and brutally honest. Anything less would not have been fair to her. I told her none of us could let her stay with us. easy child and Nichole do not have the room. True. And husband and I couldn't even consider it, we're in a desperate situation ourselves. Heck, I don't know at this point if we will be able to afford Travis coming back for summer.......although we probably will be able to as I know he'd get a job and help. Something I [B]don't [/B]know with K. So........I told her having a place to stay [B]before[/B] she would move here is absolutely [B]vital[/B]. And having a way to survive until they find work is just as vital. That both of these things need to be settled [B]before[/B] she would move. I made that very clear. I told her I was neither encouraging or discouraging her to move here. And I'm not. I told her that it is a decision she has to make. Only she can decide what she thinks would be best for her and the kids. But I really stressed no one would be taking her in or helping her financially. [B][I]No One[/I][/B]. If she wants to move here that's great, but it's all up to her. Also told her to contact her wefare social worker to find out the waiting period/services she'd be able to get......Social worker should be able to look it up on the computer and find out. I know here they looked up to find out what services she'd had there cuz I was with her when she'd applied. Last time it kicked in fast......but I think that was because she was pregnant with Alex. I don't know how people in such a desperate situation manage such interstate moves. I know they do it, I just don't know [B]how[/B] they do it. Perhaps the church there can contact a church here and work together to manage it.........I know domestic violence shelters do that sort of thing, so I don't know why churches couldn't manage it. Heck, my mom had a japanese friend.......a church paid her way to the states. Paid her way back to Japan several years later........then paid her way back to the states again when her family abused both her and her son. So I know such things are possible. So now it's in her lap. If she can get a place to live and income until she has a job.......she knows she's more than welcome here. It's all up to her. But I'll tell you what.......... It makes me madder than hades that I can't just say "K get your fanny over here so you're not isolated and alone!" Nope, can't say that. Don't dare say that. Instead I've got to neither encourage or discourage.......... And hope she goes about it the right way. Cuz if she just shows up here thinking we won't let them be on the street, she's got a rude awakening. The kids won't be on the street, but she and her husband/boyfriend most certainly would be. Dang. A person should never have to think like that when it comes to their own kids.:angry::frowny: [/QUOTE]
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