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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 456279" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Your kid is not wanting to show you , he is looking for relationship. In order to deal with the situation effectively we need to do it out of the moment at a good time when there is good connection , he feels good about you. Then we can do some collaborative problem solving </p><p></p><p>my dear son , I have noticed that when you are very excited about something , like what you can do on the skateboard, you need to share it with us even if our minds are on tv or dad and I are talking about something , what's up ?</p><p></p><p>Ds - I like to share my excitement, I might forget to tell you , my story is more important than Tv - ( try and think of 5-6 concerns</p><p></p><p>Mom- I am very happy for you and understand you wnat to share your excitement , what you can do , I am just worried that when my mind is concentrating on tv or in our conversation with dad , it is hard for us to switch off and give you the attention you deserve. What happens is we are unable to give you attention, get distracted from what we were doing so everybody gets upset. Do you think we can find a way that you can share your excitement with us and we can give you our 100% attention </p><p></p><p>Brainstorming - you can develp a sign language where he needs to speak to you and you acknowledge this etc </p><p></p><p>In a general conversation - you can talk about a good time to do things and a not good time to do things - for eg if you are on the telephone and he needs you etc </p><p></p><p>In the moment , do your best but don't expect to be able to problem solve </p><p></p><p>I hope this helps</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 456279, member: 10"] Hi, Your kid is not wanting to show you , he is looking for relationship. In order to deal with the situation effectively we need to do it out of the moment at a good time when there is good connection , he feels good about you. Then we can do some collaborative problem solving my dear son , I have noticed that when you are very excited about something , like what you can do on the skateboard, you need to share it with us even if our minds are on tv or dad and I are talking about something , what's up ? Ds - I like to share my excitement, I might forget to tell you , my story is more important than Tv - ( try and think of 5-6 concerns Mom- I am very happy for you and understand you wnat to share your excitement , what you can do , I am just worried that when my mind is concentrating on tv or in our conversation with dad , it is hard for us to switch off and give you the attention you deserve. What happens is we are unable to give you attention, get distracted from what we were doing so everybody gets upset. Do you think we can find a way that you can share your excitement with us and we can give you our 100% attention Brainstorming - you can develp a sign language where he needs to speak to you and you acknowledge this etc In a general conversation - you can talk about a good time to do things and a not good time to do things - for eg if you are on the telephone and he needs you etc In the moment , do your best but don't expect to be able to problem solve I hope this helps Allan [/QUOTE]
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