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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 303148" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You are a good auntie and uncle. It is very kind of you to offer.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide, put it in writing and have it notarized with your signatures, the daughter's signature and brother in law and his wife's signatures. </p><p></p><p>It will help keep this from destroying your relationship with miscommunications.</p><p></p><p>Ask about her activities. Can she take a bus or carpool or get a ride or do you have to drive her to and from each activity. Will the bus come to your street or will she have to be dropped off and picked up.</p><p></p><p>I recommend calling DHS or googling to find how much a foster family gets per child. they should pay at least that much. </p><p></p><p>In addition get their policies toward grades, boys, dating, parties, dances, going places with friends who drive, curfew, and consequences/punishments for breaking the rules. </p><p></p><p>Retain veto power in case something comes up. Get signed waivers on file with school, all doctors, and all sports/activity organizations. make sure you can be part of IEP meetings/evaluation, doctor visits, hospital visits, and everything else. You should have a notarized file with all of these in a file drawer. You should have separate wallet size versions in your purse and husband's wallet. </p><p></p><p>At the doctor office you should pressure them to keep that form at the top of the file. It can get things put on top of it and then they could pressure you to stay out of decisions if it get buried in the file. been there done that.</p><p></p><p>It may seem like a lot, but also talk about values, dating, etc... NOT all of these will work with YOUR family rules/guidelines. Work to figure out how to mesh every thing you have. </p><p></p><p>Doing this work now will save a lot of resentment and hard feelings in the future.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs to all!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 303148, member: 1233"] You are a good auntie and uncle. It is very kind of you to offer. Whatever you decide, put it in writing and have it notarized with your signatures, the daughter's signature and brother in law and his wife's signatures. It will help keep this from destroying your relationship with miscommunications. Ask about her activities. Can she take a bus or carpool or get a ride or do you have to drive her to and from each activity. Will the bus come to your street or will she have to be dropped off and picked up. I recommend calling DHS or googling to find how much a foster family gets per child. they should pay at least that much. In addition get their policies toward grades, boys, dating, parties, dances, going places with friends who drive, curfew, and consequences/punishments for breaking the rules. Retain veto power in case something comes up. Get signed waivers on file with school, all doctors, and all sports/activity organizations. make sure you can be part of IEP meetings/evaluation, doctor visits, hospital visits, and everything else. You should have a notarized file with all of these in a file drawer. You should have separate wallet size versions in your purse and husband's wallet. At the doctor office you should pressure them to keep that form at the top of the file. It can get things put on top of it and then they could pressure you to stay out of decisions if it get buried in the file. been there done that. It may seem like a lot, but also talk about values, dating, etc... NOT all of these will work with YOUR family rules/guidelines. Work to figure out how to mesh every thing you have. Doing this work now will save a lot of resentment and hard feelings in the future. Many hugs to all! [/QUOTE]
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