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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 299660" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Do you know.......that you did the absolute, best, most right, thing you could have possibly done and from a standpoint of a therapeutical aspect (instead of writing a check for $250) you were correct? </p><p> </p><p>When I went through this with Dude and husband? Sometimes there needed to be a mediator. Sometimes I needed to take husband's side and sometimes in private I needed to remind husband that difficult child was right and we'd go back and discuss it as a family. But then there are those times when the two of them would bicker, and badger, and jockey for position of the most absurd male in the house. </p><p> </p><p>It was those times that I just picked up my keys, put the dogs leash on, grabbed my purse and sometimes quietly - sometimes NOT so quietly shut the door, got in the car and backed out of the driveway and went to Krispy Kreme. I'd take the monster dog to the park, we'd have a doughnut, have a cup of coffee and I'd just talk to the only person in the house that a.) deserved to have my conversational words - Casper. b.) deserved to be rewarded with a cream filled doughnut for his behavior - Casper. </p><p> </p><p>Sometimes on the way home I'd call and say nothing more than "I'm alright, but by the time I get home you two need to work this out or I swear when I get there I will come in, get a bag and leave again until you do." </p><p> </p><p>Now this doesn't work for every problem in a family - and it doesn't work if Dad leaves and goes to the local pub, comes home gassed and sleeps on the lawn - but sometimes getting away during an electric moment between "steps" is a good thing. You can't always be the mediator - and they have to find common ground - which oddly enough IS you - but there has to be more. Which you CAN'T give them...so go have a doughnut .....and take the dog. </p><p> </p><p>In my case at 11:00 PM - with an all white dog that has near glow-in-the-dark-eyes and a spiked collar, at his size and me carrying a Krispy Kreme bag? We cleared out the park pretty quick....lol. I just had to keep throwing the bag different directions saying "There it is.....git it." <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs for your "BETTER" Today</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 299660, member: 4964"] Do you know.......that you did the absolute, best, most right, thing you could have possibly done and from a standpoint of a therapeutical aspect (instead of writing a check for $250) you were correct? When I went through this with Dude and husband? Sometimes there needed to be a mediator. Sometimes I needed to take husband's side and sometimes in private I needed to remind husband that difficult child was right and we'd go back and discuss it as a family. But then there are those times when the two of them would bicker, and badger, and jockey for position of the most absurd male in the house. It was those times that I just picked up my keys, put the dogs leash on, grabbed my purse and sometimes quietly - sometimes NOT so quietly shut the door, got in the car and backed out of the driveway and went to Krispy Kreme. I'd take the monster dog to the park, we'd have a doughnut, have a cup of coffee and I'd just talk to the only person in the house that a.) deserved to have my conversational words - Casper. b.) deserved to be rewarded with a cream filled doughnut for his behavior - Casper. Sometimes on the way home I'd call and say nothing more than "I'm alright, but by the time I get home you two need to work this out or I swear when I get there I will come in, get a bag and leave again until you do." Now this doesn't work for every problem in a family - and it doesn't work if Dad leaves and goes to the local pub, comes home gassed and sleeps on the lawn - but sometimes getting away during an electric moment between "steps" is a good thing. You can't always be the mediator - and they have to find common ground - which oddly enough IS you - but there has to be more. Which you CAN'T give them...so go have a doughnut .....and take the dog. In my case at 11:00 PM - with an all white dog that has near glow-in-the-dark-eyes and a spiked collar, at his size and me carrying a Krispy Kreme bag? We cleared out the park pretty quick....lol. I just had to keep throwing the bag different directions saying "There it is.....git it." :raspberry-tounge: Hugs for your "BETTER" Today [/QUOTE]
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