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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 401642" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I always got the feeling that my difficult child didn't really think of me as a person but as an entity that took care of him(self absorbed thinking). Not because he was being selfish but because his brain didn't process that part of his life on a more evolved level. It was instinctual like any mammal. There is always a food source and a source of protection and meeting of needs. It took more maturity, puberty to realize that I was a human person who didn't live to serve his needs. Again, I do not for a second think of this as a spoiled, self indulged kid. His brain and emotional maturity had not made that leap. His connection to me was a lifeline on a practical survival level. It's only as he gets older that he thanks me or appreciates me(although he isn't letting go of that lifeline because survival is instinctive) It's higher level thinking that goes past survival and looks with some emotional attachment and even affection at who a mother is and how he survived because of her. </p><p>Enjoy the light bulb moment for him. It's a good teaching moment about what you expect in return for being the lifeline that you are to him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 401642, member: 3"] I always got the feeling that my difficult child didn't really think of me as a person but as an entity that took care of him(self absorbed thinking). Not because he was being selfish but because his brain didn't process that part of his life on a more evolved level. It was instinctual like any mammal. There is always a food source and a source of protection and meeting of needs. It took more maturity, puberty to realize that I was a human person who didn't live to serve his needs. Again, I do not for a second think of this as a spoiled, self indulged kid. His brain and emotional maturity had not made that leap. His connection to me was a lifeline on a practical survival level. It's only as he gets older that he thanks me or appreciates me(although he isn't letting go of that lifeline because survival is instinctive) It's higher level thinking that goes past survival and looks with some emotional attachment and even affection at who a mother is and how he survived because of her. Enjoy the light bulb moment for him. It's a good teaching moment about what you expect in return for being the lifeline that you are to him. [/QUOTE]
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