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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 166011" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I'm glad it went very well for you and k! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I can commiserate with you over the party situation.</p><p></p><p>Last November I went through the same thing. It was awful. I threw a birthday party for my little dude. It was to be at the local ice skating rink which I thought would be a big deal (it was to us, something we normally would never do or could afford but had saved for) and hoped would be great for him since he hasn't really had birthday parties before we moved and now with the move it's been rough. </p><p></p><p>Last year was horrid year in school. Bad experience with teacher that trickled down to classmates and parents caused BIG problems and outcasting by classmates. I wanted THIS year to be special since it was new and things have been a bit better and his anxieties have gotten a little better and I thought this might foster some friendships/relationships with the kids and parents. Maybe it was a dumb move? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>Anyway, we sent out 20 invitations because I had to pay for 10 kids mandatory for the party anyway and I knew to expect half at the very least to show. I got all of 4 calls! 1 was to say they would come and the other 3 to say they would not. Talk about out rage! I couldn't believe it. It was hard enough as you are NOT allowed to give out invitations at or through school. They MUST be mailed only here. How the heck do you do that? Who has every families address? Oh, if they "choose" to be listed in the school directory then you can find them but a good majority do not.</p><p></p><p>Ok so we have a decent teacher who knew little dude was suffering the effects of last year and had a little struggle. I asked, no I begged and pleaded could she please help us? She knew we were trying to foster the social struggle and anxities to get better and even though it was against the school rules agreed to at least put them in the Monday folder. Bad me. I should have never asked because it caused in outrage by other parents also asking for the same and then notice went home to all parents. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>Anyway, longer story made short, in the end all of 4 kids out of 20 showed up. 3 who never even called to tell me. I had no idea how many really would or wouldn't show so I had made enough for 10 kids "incase" to have treat buckets (99cent store stuff and trading post stuff). The kids basically ignored him at the party and out on the rink. If his older sister was not there he would have had no one to skate with. Of course everyone had to sit together to have their pizza and ice cream.</p><p></p><p>Oh and during the game time I planned and we were playing, 2 of the kids actually said "do we have to do this?" Mind you, everyone got prizes too (3 a piece no less since so many didn't show)</p><p></p><p>I felt sooooo bad for difficult child. He was, however happy with the party and has nice memories of it simply because he "had the party and it was at the ice rink". Luckily how the kids treated him didn't effect him the way it effected me.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't dare think twice about NOT responding to an RSVP ever. I know how important they are in planning and I was taught it was rude to not do so one way or another! I guess these days and times some people have just plain have forgotten their manners. Maybe THAT needs to be a class in school and not a class you go elsewhere to pay to be taught for the elite??? (taught to adults somehow since they have seem to have forgotten it as I can't imagine they weren't raised with it)</p><p></p><p>My 2 cents as this does get my goat. I have decided not to give difficult child# 2 a birthday party as this has been an ongoing thing in years past with lack of participation in parties anymore it seems. It truly is sad. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 166011, member: 455"] I'm glad it went very well for you and k! :) I can commiserate with you over the party situation. Last November I went through the same thing. It was awful. I threw a birthday party for my little dude. It was to be at the local ice skating rink which I thought would be a big deal (it was to us, something we normally would never do or could afford but had saved for) and hoped would be great for him since he hasn't really had birthday parties before we moved and now with the move it's been rough. Last year was horrid year in school. Bad experience with teacher that trickled down to classmates and parents caused BIG problems and outcasting by classmates. I wanted THIS year to be special since it was new and things have been a bit better and his anxieties have gotten a little better and I thought this might foster some friendships/relationships with the kids and parents. Maybe it was a dumb move? :( Anyway, we sent out 20 invitations because I had to pay for 10 kids mandatory for the party anyway and I knew to expect half at the very least to show. I got all of 4 calls! 1 was to say they would come and the other 3 to say they would not. Talk about out rage! I couldn't believe it. It was hard enough as you are NOT allowed to give out invitations at or through school. They MUST be mailed only here. How the heck do you do that? Who has every families address? Oh, if they "choose" to be listed in the school directory then you can find them but a good majority do not. Ok so we have a decent teacher who knew little dude was suffering the effects of last year and had a little struggle. I asked, no I begged and pleaded could she please help us? She knew we were trying to foster the social struggle and anxities to get better and even though it was against the school rules agreed to at least put them in the Monday folder. Bad me. I should have never asked because it caused in outrage by other parents also asking for the same and then notice went home to all parents. :( Anyway, longer story made short, in the end all of 4 kids out of 20 showed up. 3 who never even called to tell me. I had no idea how many really would or wouldn't show so I had made enough for 10 kids "incase" to have treat buckets (99cent store stuff and trading post stuff). The kids basically ignored him at the party and out on the rink. If his older sister was not there he would have had no one to skate with. Of course everyone had to sit together to have their pizza and ice cream. Oh and during the game time I planned and we were playing, 2 of the kids actually said "do we have to do this?" Mind you, everyone got prizes too (3 a piece no less since so many didn't show) I felt sooooo bad for difficult child. He was, however happy with the party and has nice memories of it simply because he "had the party and it was at the ice rink". Luckily how the kids treated him didn't effect him the way it effected me. I wouldn't dare think twice about NOT responding to an RSVP ever. I know how important they are in planning and I was taught it was rude to not do so one way or another! I guess these days and times some people have just plain have forgotten their manners. Maybe THAT needs to be a class in school and not a class you go elsewhere to pay to be taught for the elite??? (taught to adults somehow since they have seem to have forgotten it as I can't imagine they weren't raised with it) My 2 cents as this does get my goat. I have decided not to give difficult child# 2 a birthday party as this has been an ongoing thing in years past with lack of participation in parties anymore it seems. It truly is sad. :( [/QUOTE]
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