Gail
I am up with insomnia I often have when my heart is aching about my sons situation.
You are not alone. This is a club none of us asked to join, but we are here together nonetheless
It is difficult to discuss with many people. Hopefully you can see your pastors efforts to connect you with a counselor as a good thing. This is the subject of prayers but also of professional support
You are doing the loving work of being the parent of a struggling adult child and it is painful. But it can also ease with support and time. Many of the veterans on the forum started out here despondent and exhausted from all they had tried and endured. Coming here and telling your story is such a hopeful and important step in becoming stronger for yourself and your child. Letting yourself grieve is part of the process of acceptance.
I’m glad you found the forum.