Terry, I mean no offense to this. But, why did difficult child have these breakfast items in front of him if this is not what he wanted? Do you prepare a breakfast meal all the time and everyone gets whatever it is that you made? I am just trying to learn why he had items he did not want.
I am sensing that perhaps you are trying to be too rigid for a difficult child way of thinking. I am not saying husband is right - he may be too lenient. But, either way you both have to figure out which way is best. Are you prepared to try it DHs way for a bit to see if it works?
It might be necessary for you both to parent out of your comfort zone - it is VERY hard to do.
