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Last Night The Devil Showed In My Dream,This Morning Heck Broke Lose
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 645016" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This doesn't happen in the U.S. and I did foster parent and adopted out of foster care. They say the parent has control, but they take all control. It is dangerous. I do not suggest this in this country. Nor do I feel this is a good solution. If you don't know her story, she is caring full time for three of her disturbed, sick older relatives on top of her kids and they are all difficult children. Nobody can do that and also adequately care for two children with issues. That's why I suggested she take care of herself and get outside help to deal with the older adults in her life. Poor thing will burn out like a candle at this rate and her kids will not do any benefit as they are splitting their time with a VERY demanding and sickly grandfather and a sick father and disabled sister and I think a grandmother and aunt may be in there too. NOBODY CAN DO ALL THAT!<em><strong> A nurse would quit. </strong></em></p><p></p><p>I sadly do not think this situation will get better, although I could be wrong. Until we learn to take care of our own needs, our children suffer as does anyone who depends on us. Do you really thilnk GPA is getting the good care a nurse can give him? Dad? Sis? They need medical professioanls, all of them. You aren't one.</p><p></p><p>We can't be any good if we spread ourselves so thin, like jelly on bread, that we don't exist anymore. We are only who we are tending to now.</p><p></p><p>The daughter AND son need intensive one-one care by Mom and not all these outside oldsters who are sick taking over their lives (and yours). There are supports for them. I am 61 so I'm not speaking as a young person, but I would never allow my kids to watch after me if I were this sick. It's selfish of the family to throw this all at her and if God forbid anything happens to anything, although they are old, sick and not getting professional care, she will get the blame.</p><p></p><p>Please, Confused, consider a change or else...if nothing changes...you wll not see your children changing. It is getting late for your daughter and your son is already diagnosed with Condust Disorder. That takes a ton of therapy and help to undo. If CD isn't taken care of it can turn into adult antisocial behavior disorder. But does Grandpa, auntie, or kissin' cousin care about him?</p><p></p><p>I don't think so.</p><p></p><p>Please, please...learn to love yourself before your kids get any older, for their sake. Ok. That is my last plea. If you refuse to make your situation better, just like our difficult children, nobody can force you to help yourself. </p><p>Take care <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 645016, member: 1550"] This doesn't happen in the U.S. and I did foster parent and adopted out of foster care. They say the parent has control, but they take all control. It is dangerous. I do not suggest this in this country. Nor do I feel this is a good solution. If you don't know her story, she is caring full time for three of her disturbed, sick older relatives on top of her kids and they are all difficult children. Nobody can do that and also adequately care for two children with issues. That's why I suggested she take care of herself and get outside help to deal with the older adults in her life. Poor thing will burn out like a candle at this rate and her kids will not do any benefit as they are splitting their time with a VERY demanding and sickly grandfather and a sick father and disabled sister and I think a grandmother and aunt may be in there too. NOBODY CAN DO ALL THAT![I][B] A nurse would quit. [/B][/I] I sadly do not think this situation will get better, although I could be wrong. Until we learn to take care of our own needs, our children suffer as does anyone who depends on us. Do you really thilnk GPA is getting the good care a nurse can give him? Dad? Sis? They need medical professioanls, all of them. You aren't one. We can't be any good if we spread ourselves so thin, like jelly on bread, that we don't exist anymore. We are only who we are tending to now. The daughter AND son need intensive one-one care by Mom and not all these outside oldsters who are sick taking over their lives (and yours). There are supports for them. I am 61 so I'm not speaking as a young person, but I would never allow my kids to watch after me if I were this sick. It's selfish of the family to throw this all at her and if God forbid anything happens to anything, although they are old, sick and not getting professional care, she will get the blame. Please, Confused, consider a change or else...if nothing changes...you wll not see your children changing. It is getting late for your daughter and your son is already diagnosed with Condust Disorder. That takes a ton of therapy and help to undo. If CD isn't taken care of it can turn into adult antisocial behavior disorder. But does Grandpa, auntie, or kissin' cousin care about him? I don't think so. Please, please...learn to love yourself before your kids get any older, for their sake. Ok. That is my last plea. If you refuse to make your situation better, just like our difficult children, nobody can force you to help yourself. Take care ;) [/QUOTE]
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