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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 236708" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">I just want to throw out there that many times when a counselor meets a couple for the first time, he/she does not interfere all that much because he/she is trying to see how the couple normally interact with one another. It helps to see that up close and naturally so he/she can help them to come up with a 'fight fair' set of rules and communication guidelines.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">When H and I went to counseling the first time as a couple, our counselor just let us go, the only rule being we could each speak for a full 5 minutes without the other interrupting. At the next meeting she gave us a 'fight fair' sheet on which has several rules to try and follow at home - these were very helpful, although we both broke them once in a while. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">Anyway, before your throw in the towel with this counselor, you may want to figure out if he was just trying to get a feel for how your communicate NOW and how he can help you in that regard for the future - to help you improve your communication to become more effective.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 236708, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]I just want to throw out there that many times when a counselor meets a couple for the first time, he/she does not interfere all that much because he/she is trying to see how the couple normally interact with one another. It helps to see that up close and naturally so he/she can help them to come up with a 'fight fair' set of rules and communication guidelines.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]When H and I went to counseling the first time as a couple, our counselor just let us go, the only rule being we could each speak for a full 5 minutes without the other interrupting. At the next meeting she gave us a 'fight fair' sheet on which has several rules to try and follow at home - these were very helpful, although we both broke them once in a while. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]Anyway, before your throw in the towel with this counselor, you may want to figure out if he was just trying to get a feel for how your communicate NOW and how he can help you in that regard for the future - to help you improve your communication to become more effective.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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