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<blockquote data-quote="possumholler" data-source="post: 441904" data-attributes="member: 12300"><p>Once he goes, I will probably not see him for a while. I don't really see him now--he stays half the night. For the most part, we have a good relationship (especially when he is broke<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" />), I think he just stays away from us because--a. he is having too much fun, we cramp his style and b. we remind him of his failures. He does his chores, he does extra things around the house when I ask him to, yesterday when I came home, the pool had been cleaned and the dishes washed, he did things that he normally wouldn't do. He does have money and I have given him the debit card on his "real" bank account--we have been operating on the VISA Buxx card for too long (where you put money on it--from his account, and if there is no money, he cannot charge). He will incur some overdraft charges and car repairs (he loves mudding, which damages his car), hopefully he will learn. If he decides to go back to school, he still has half of his college fund that my mother set up for him. I will cash some of that out and pay myself back for the $12,000 I have paid for his education, he has been in school 3 years and if he decides to return to school he will be a sophomore (at least it wasn't ALL a waste). I will also drop my ATT Family Map where I can track him via his phone (that is the best phone feature EVER while he was in high school). He gets paid tomorrow, so he will have money for a week (I hope). I will buy him some groceries, make him some cookies and send him on his way. Is he scared--you betcha, but so am I, but I think we went through all this stuff, so it would be easier to let him go. I have 2 kids, this one is the one most like me--you don't have a "favorite" kid, you just have one that is more like you, you are in tune with them better. Maybe I can save my other son from a life of being like his father--there is now going to be a room at grandma's inn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="possumholler, post: 441904, member: 12300"] Once he goes, I will probably not see him for a while. I don't really see him now--he stays half the night. For the most part, we have a good relationship (especially when he is broke:sigh:), I think he just stays away from us because--a. he is having too much fun, we cramp his style and b. we remind him of his failures. He does his chores, he does extra things around the house when I ask him to, yesterday when I came home, the pool had been cleaned and the dishes washed, he did things that he normally wouldn't do. He does have money and I have given him the debit card on his "real" bank account--we have been operating on the VISA Buxx card for too long (where you put money on it--from his account, and if there is no money, he cannot charge). He will incur some overdraft charges and car repairs (he loves mudding, which damages his car), hopefully he will learn. If he decides to go back to school, he still has half of his college fund that my mother set up for him. I will cash some of that out and pay myself back for the $12,000 I have paid for his education, he has been in school 3 years and if he decides to return to school he will be a sophomore (at least it wasn't ALL a waste). I will also drop my ATT Family Map where I can track him via his phone (that is the best phone feature EVER while he was in high school). He gets paid tomorrow, so he will have money for a week (I hope). I will buy him some groceries, make him some cookies and send him on his way. Is he scared--you betcha, but so am I, but I think we went through all this stuff, so it would be easier to let him go. I have 2 kids, this one is the one most like me--you don't have a "favorite" kid, you just have one that is more like you, you are in tune with them better. Maybe I can save my other son from a life of being like his father--there is now going to be a room at grandma's inn. [/QUOTE]
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