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<blockquote data-quote="AHF" data-source="post: 461749" data-attributes="member: 11180"><p>There should be a club of us with varsity-athlete sons who fall apart after HS. I just picked mine up from being thrown out for the third time by an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he slept all day and wouldn't go to groups. So that's three colleges, three hospitalizations, 3 RTCs. And yes, the doctors will tell you what they tell me--that "hitting bottom" for such self-destructive man-boys can mean suicide, that unless I'm ready to attend his funeral, I have to remain there for him. Having a weak father is a key problem, I agree. My ex has been chronically un- or underemployed, so neither of my kids has had the benefit of a positive father figure. Now we stronger parents are being asked to take up both the traditional roles--of the stern, rule-setting father, and the compassionate, forgiving mom. I constantly declare that I will leave Peter Pan on the street, and the next thing you know I'm driving him somewhere else or letting him back into the house. Makes me feel like a fraud as well as a failure. So I have no solutions but plenty of empathy. PM me if you want to talk more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AHF, post: 461749, member: 11180"] There should be a club of us with varsity-athlete sons who fall apart after HS. I just picked mine up from being thrown out for the third time by an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he slept all day and wouldn't go to groups. So that's three colleges, three hospitalizations, 3 RTCs. And yes, the doctors will tell you what they tell me--that "hitting bottom" for such self-destructive man-boys can mean suicide, that unless I'm ready to attend his funeral, I have to remain there for him. Having a weak father is a key problem, I agree. My ex has been chronically un- or underemployed, so neither of my kids has had the benefit of a positive father figure. Now we stronger parents are being asked to take up both the traditional roles--of the stern, rule-setting father, and the compassionate, forgiving mom. I constantly declare that I will leave Peter Pan on the street, and the next thing you know I'm driving him somewhere else or letting him back into the house. Makes me feel like a fraud as well as a failure. So I have no solutions but plenty of empathy. PM me if you want to talk more. [/QUOTE]
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