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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 431356" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Tired--</p><p> </p><p>Welcome to the group. I actually didn't see your first thread, so I went back and read it...</p><p> </p><p>I think I understand what you are talking about. You said that you took the child to a doctor and was told a certain thing - and then we, on the board, kind of dismissed that and said 'Get a new doctor!'</p><p> </p><p>There is a reason behind this - </p><p> </p><p>Too many times, parents see something that they know instinctively is "not quite right"...but they don't know how to fix it. And being the loving, caring parents that they are....they take their child to the doctor - usually the pediatrician. And unfortunately, too many times, parents' concerns are brushed off, dismissed as worring over nothing - or worse, the child is given an instant "diagnosis" such as ODD or ADHD without any in-depth testing.</p><p> </p><p>And then parents are started off on a wild-goose-chase trying to "fix" their parenting, try a new discpline method (or worse - started right away on various medications without having had a thorough diagnosis in the first place)</p><p> </p><p>Speaking for myself - I had NO IDEA that I should go and get a second opinion. My pediatrician said X, and since he's the "expert", he must know what he is talking about...and I spent a long time doubting myself instead of getting help for my child.</p><p> </p><p>Now, through hard experience, I know better.</p><p> </p><p>And when the Board Family reads about yet another parent getting an "instant diagnosis" from a pediatrician...we want to spare them years of agonizing over their own shortcomings.</p><p> </p><p>You are a good parent. You KNOW something is wrong. You would like to help the child. But probably don't have any idea where to turn for REAL help.</p><p> </p><p>And that is where we come in. We can often spot "clues" in one another's posts....give suggestions of ideas to explore....possible solutions to try...</p><p>We are not trying to make you feel as though you 'should have know better' - but we DO want you to feel as thiough you can trust your gut. </p><p> </p><p>You know your child better than anyone in the world.</p><p> </p><p>You are the best possible person to help them!</p><p> </p><p>Welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 431356, member: 6546"] Tired-- Welcome to the group. I actually didn't see your first thread, so I went back and read it... I think I understand what you are talking about. You said that you took the child to a doctor and was told a certain thing - and then we, on the board, kind of dismissed that and said 'Get a new doctor!' There is a reason behind this - Too many times, parents see something that they know instinctively is "not quite right"...but they don't know how to fix it. And being the loving, caring parents that they are....they take their child to the doctor - usually the pediatrician. And unfortunately, too many times, parents' concerns are brushed off, dismissed as worring over nothing - or worse, the child is given an instant "diagnosis" such as ODD or ADHD without any in-depth testing. And then parents are started off on a wild-goose-chase trying to "fix" their parenting, try a new discpline method (or worse - started right away on various medications without having had a thorough diagnosis in the first place) Speaking for myself - I had NO IDEA that I should go and get a second opinion. My pediatrician said X, and since he's the "expert", he must know what he is talking about...and I spent a long time doubting myself instead of getting help for my child. Now, through hard experience, I know better. And when the Board Family reads about yet another parent getting an "instant diagnosis" from a pediatrician...we want to spare them years of agonizing over their own shortcomings. You are a good parent. You KNOW something is wrong. You would like to help the child. But probably don't have any idea where to turn for REAL help. And that is where we come in. We can often spot "clues" in one another's posts....give suggestions of ideas to explore....possible solutions to try... We are not trying to make you feel as though you 'should have know better' - but we DO want you to feel as thiough you can trust your gut. You know your child better than anyone in the world. You are the best possible person to help them! Welcome! [/QUOTE]
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