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<blockquote data-quote="tiredparents" data-source="post: 431559" data-attributes="member: 12016"><p>First I will start off by saying that I feel so much better after reading all of these responses from this post. </p><p></p><p>Marguerite - I completely agree with the survival mode. It makes perfect sense. My husband is very active on here with me. We sat together the day we found this and read through many many posts that were very helpful. Thankfully he is on 100% the same page as me, and we are good team together. So that is a plus. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Thanks for being gentle. This is all very fresh for us. </p><p></p><p>busywend - I get that. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I wish there was a simple easy solution, but I know that there is not. So all we can do is take it day by day. </p><p></p><p>TerryJ2- I definitely think that I might have just had too soft of skin yesterday. I thank you very much for your suggestions, I will keep them in mind! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>dammit janet - Thank you so much for jumping in. I appreciate your words and thoughts. Every message I got today made me feel so much better. I certainly think that I need to not be on the defense in this situation, I guess that is easier said than done in the beginning. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>kiesta- Thank your for your response. Being the new person is always hard. LOL I will gladly accept any advice from experiences of others. That is why I decided to join this site as soon as I found it. And like I said in the initial post on here was that I know that I need all of the friends and support that I can get right now. I definitely agree with your statement about being overwhelmed, I truly think that may have been what was going on with me yesterday. I think that I got a little overwhelmed and just didn't know how to cope. I am learning right along with my difficult child. lol That's for sure. </p><p></p><p>DaisyFace - Thank you so much for your response. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I have definitely considered the second opinion as I was already thinking that, and the responses did coincide with my gut feeling, so I just need to trust my gut instinct. Our pediatrician based the conduct disorder on the fact that husband stated that difficult child does not show remorse a lot of the time, and he jumped right in with Conduct Disorder, this was after we did the ADHD test thing where I filled one out and difficult children teacher filled one out. They were almost completely opposite of each other. So the issues that we do have, are mainly at home, or at places like Papaws. Although, he is only in Kindergarten this year, and as we are coming to the end of the school year, he is starting to show some things at school, like never finishing his morning work, and having problems with a few of the other boys in his class. So, I can only hope that we can get in to see the psychiatrist before 1st grade starts because I fear what next year holds for difficult child, me and husband. </p><p></p><p>Shari - Thank you for your response. I am so sorry that you did have to lose out any time at all. I am hoping that we can find a doctor that will help us the right way, and not just want to throw a diagnosis on difficult child without doing the proper things to make sure he is being diagnosed with proper diagnosis. I hope that we can be on a more solid track by the time that next school year starts out. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>wintak - I can certainly feel you as you say you are going through a grieving process. I feel the same exact way. It is hard to go through all of that phases that you mentioned before getting to acceptance. I also can relate to the hard feelings that you talk about. Those are what make me feel like I am failing him. I get frustrated with myself, because I feel like I am wrong for having those feelings sometimes. I can also see what you are saying about how many of the people on here have had their diagnosis for many years and that they come across differently to those of us are do have the fresh wounds. I like how you worded that, because that is just what they are!! Fresh wounds. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>So, again, I feel so much better after reading the responses to this post. I wanted to get my feelings out there because my gut tells me that I need this site, so I am staying for sure!! Thanks to all of you wonderful people and parents. I am sure this site is going to be a huge benefit for me! Thank you all soo much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredparents, post: 431559, member: 12016"] First I will start off by saying that I feel so much better after reading all of these responses from this post. Marguerite - I completely agree with the survival mode. It makes perfect sense. My husband is very active on here with me. We sat together the day we found this and read through many many posts that were very helpful. Thankfully he is on 100% the same page as me, and we are good team together. So that is a plus. :) Thanks for being gentle. This is all very fresh for us. busywend - I get that. :) I wish there was a simple easy solution, but I know that there is not. So all we can do is take it day by day. TerryJ2- I definitely think that I might have just had too soft of skin yesterday. I thank you very much for your suggestions, I will keep them in mind! :) dammit janet - Thank you so much for jumping in. I appreciate your words and thoughts. Every message I got today made me feel so much better. I certainly think that I need to not be on the defense in this situation, I guess that is easier said than done in the beginning. :) kiesta- Thank your for your response. Being the new person is always hard. LOL I will gladly accept any advice from experiences of others. That is why I decided to join this site as soon as I found it. And like I said in the initial post on here was that I know that I need all of the friends and support that I can get right now. I definitely agree with your statement about being overwhelmed, I truly think that may have been what was going on with me yesterday. I think that I got a little overwhelmed and just didn't know how to cope. I am learning right along with my difficult child. lol That's for sure. DaisyFace - Thank you so much for your response. :) I have definitely considered the second opinion as I was already thinking that, and the responses did coincide with my gut feeling, so I just need to trust my gut instinct. Our pediatrician based the conduct disorder on the fact that husband stated that difficult child does not show remorse a lot of the time, and he jumped right in with Conduct Disorder, this was after we did the ADHD test thing where I filled one out and difficult children teacher filled one out. They were almost completely opposite of each other. So the issues that we do have, are mainly at home, or at places like Papaws. Although, he is only in Kindergarten this year, and as we are coming to the end of the school year, he is starting to show some things at school, like never finishing his morning work, and having problems with a few of the other boys in his class. So, I can only hope that we can get in to see the psychiatrist before 1st grade starts because I fear what next year holds for difficult child, me and husband. Shari - Thank you for your response. I am so sorry that you did have to lose out any time at all. I am hoping that we can find a doctor that will help us the right way, and not just want to throw a diagnosis on difficult child without doing the proper things to make sure he is being diagnosed with proper diagnosis. I hope that we can be on a more solid track by the time that next school year starts out. :) wintak - I can certainly feel you as you say you are going through a grieving process. I feel the same exact way. It is hard to go through all of that phases that you mentioned before getting to acceptance. I also can relate to the hard feelings that you talk about. Those are what make me feel like I am failing him. I get frustrated with myself, because I feel like I am wrong for having those feelings sometimes. I can also see what you are saying about how many of the people on here have had their diagnosis for many years and that they come across differently to those of us are do have the fresh wounds. I like how you worded that, because that is just what they are!! Fresh wounds. :) So, again, I feel so much better after reading the responses to this post. I wanted to get my feelings out there because my gut tells me that I need this site, so I am staying for sure!! Thanks to all of you wonderful people and parents. I am sure this site is going to be a huge benefit for me! Thank you all soo much. [/QUOTE]
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