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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 413886" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>FWIW...</p><p> </p><p>I say let 'em try.</p><p> </p><p>A few years back, the court ordered husband and BM to take a parenting class. Well, wouldn't you know, she didn't. husband did. And, bonus - I went with him. I told him - point blank - if we have to pay for an extra person, we will. (It was covered by Childrens Services.)</p><p> </p><p>I didn't get much out of it. I learned the behavior charts, and you're supposed to reason with children beginning at age 3 as long as it's not a safety issue (AHEM!!!). And choices within limits. Well, we all know the charts and reasoning do NOT help with a difficult child. And the choices? They work intermittently. (Give a difficult child two choices, they'll take the 27th, the one that you didn't even consider.) But let me tell you something else. We saw the reports, as they were submitted to the court. The teacher said husband and I were really trying to "get it", that BM didn't finish the classes, and that therein lay the problem.</p><p> </p><p>So let them try. But make sure they observe <em>you</em> trying their methods, and <em>difficult child</em> blowing you off. And document the holy living koi out of the whole mess!</p><p> </p><p>...And... {{{{{HUGS}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 413886, member: 6705"] FWIW... I say let 'em try. A few years back, the court ordered husband and BM to take a parenting class. Well, wouldn't you know, she didn't. husband did. And, bonus - I went with him. I told him - point blank - if we have to pay for an extra person, we will. (It was covered by Childrens Services.) I didn't get much out of it. I learned the behavior charts, and you're supposed to reason with children beginning at age 3 as long as it's not a safety issue (AHEM!!!). And choices within limits. Well, we all know the charts and reasoning do NOT help with a difficult child. And the choices? They work intermittently. (Give a difficult child two choices, they'll take the 27th, the one that you didn't even consider.) But let me tell you something else. We saw the reports, as they were submitted to the court. The teacher said husband and I were really trying to "get it", that BM didn't finish the classes, and that therein lay the problem. So let them try. But make sure they observe [I]you[/I] trying their methods, and [I]difficult child[/I] blowing you off. And document the holy living koi out of the whole mess! ...And... {{{{{HUGS}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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