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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 271255" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Good idea for a thread. </p><p> </p><p>Like MWM, my tip is if it isn't working for you, take control of what you can. Think of it as Mother's Day Salvage. ;-)</p><p> </p><p>I married into a family that has had all the mothers doing the cooking for MD for as long as anyone can remember. Seriously! One of the moms gets her house ready for a big family gathering and all the moms prepare and bring the food. You can imagine how resentful I was spending my first 12 MD's with that arrangement. Yeah, getting kids ready for church, preparing food, packing kids to travel, and then cleaning the kitchen when I got home was my idea of a really good time honoring ME. </p><p> </p><p>No matter how hard I wished it, I finally concluded that there's no way my husband was going to stand up to his mother about MD so I had two choices: I could spend the rest of my MD's being angry about it or I could do something about it. I can't get out of getting together with the family, but I can take control of the no cooking thing. Two years ago I decided I was not going to cook again unless I really wanted to. It's caused some strife with mother in law but I'd rather have that than feel mean at my family for three days. Last year I bought fruit and veggie trays for sister in law and I. This year I'll be forking out for carryout chicken and spaghetti. Honestly, if I had my way I'd go out for Mexican food and go and see Star Trek so this is acompromise....but I'll take not being angry because no one is caring or daring enough to make a change. </p><p> </p><p>Last year I also asked for a gift that would give me the kind of get together I would like, only at another time. I considered the family gettogether my mother in law's celebration and I asked for tickets from my kids for us to go see Narnia together and that was <strong>my</strong> MD celebration. I felt a lot better with that to look forward to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 271255, member: 701"] Good idea for a thread. Like MWM, my tip is if it isn't working for you, take control of what you can. Think of it as Mother's Day Salvage. ;-) I married into a family that has had all the mothers doing the cooking for MD for as long as anyone can remember. Seriously! One of the moms gets her house ready for a big family gathering and all the moms prepare and bring the food. You can imagine how resentful I was spending my first 12 MD's with that arrangement. Yeah, getting kids ready for church, preparing food, packing kids to travel, and then cleaning the kitchen when I got home was my idea of a really good time honoring ME. No matter how hard I wished it, I finally concluded that there's no way my husband was going to stand up to his mother about MD so I had two choices: I could spend the rest of my MD's being angry about it or I could do something about it. I can't get out of getting together with the family, but I can take control of the no cooking thing. Two years ago I decided I was not going to cook again unless I really wanted to. It's caused some strife with mother in law but I'd rather have that than feel mean at my family for three days. Last year I bought fruit and veggie trays for sister in law and I. This year I'll be forking out for carryout chicken and spaghetti. Honestly, if I had my way I'd go out for Mexican food and go and see Star Trek so this is acompromise....but I'll take not being angry because no one is caring or daring enough to make a change. Last year I also asked for a gift that would give me the kind of get together I would like, only at another time. I considered the family gettogether my mother in law's celebration and I asked for tickets from my kids for us to go see Narnia together and that was [B]my[/B] MD celebration. I felt a lot better with that to look forward to. [/QUOTE]
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