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Letting go: I seem to be unable to do this.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739477" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I know you are right. On a number of levels.</p><p></p><p>He is beckoning me to become involved. It is like a lock and a key. But you know what? I really have nothing more to say, that I need to say to him. In a sense that text was my own, a note to self. I have struggled because I have put my son at the center of myself, of my life. And now I know better. And my job is to fill that space with my own, in terms of a spiritual life and a real life.</p><p></p><p>Whether or not he reads and understands the text is not the issue. I need to read what I wrote. And take it to heart.</p><p></p><p>In terms of the boundaries, I think I agree about rethinking them, but not the boundaries between him and me. The boundaries that are in question here are the boundaries in myself. My own rededication to myself, and staying on purpose which is my own life over which I have control.</p><p></p><p>This is good advice, to me:</p><p></p><p>And this, too:</p><p> Once I see myself kind of melting over, into him, I can pick myself up, and put myself back into myself and into my own life.</p><p></p><p>The idea here, I am seeing, is to see my relationship with my son as a practice. A lifelong practice, to heal. Not him, but myself. Thank you, OTE.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739477, member: 18958"] I know you are right. On a number of levels. He is beckoning me to become involved. It is like a lock and a key. But you know what? I really have nothing more to say, that I need to say to him. In a sense that text was my own, a note to self. I have struggled because I have put my son at the center of myself, of my life. And now I know better. And my job is to fill that space with my own, in terms of a spiritual life and a real life. Whether or not he reads and understands the text is not the issue. I need to read what I wrote. And take it to heart. In terms of the boundaries, I think I agree about rethinking them, but not the boundaries between him and me. The boundaries that are in question here are the boundaries in myself. My own rededication to myself, and staying on purpose which is my own life over which I have control. This is good advice, to me: And this, too: Once I see myself kind of melting over, into him, I can pick myself up, and put myself back into myself and into my own life. The idea here, I am seeing, is to see my relationship with my son as a practice. A lifelong practice, to heal. Not him, but myself. Thank you, OTE. [/QUOTE]
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