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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739480" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Bluebell.</p><p></p><p>You know how sorry I am for the pain you feel, which I know all too well.</p><p></p><p>If I am honest, I was not so different at that age. The only difference was huge. I had a professional job. I had had completed college. I had my own apartment. I was in intensive therapy. So, I ask myself? What do I mean I was the same?</p><p></p><p>I believed that the solutions to my life, and my attainment of "happiness" was outside of myself. I believed somebody or some career, or being married, or whatever would be the solution to my deep yearning. Even in mid-life when I adopted my son, I was operating from the same playbook.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking here of Albatrosses nuggets. One of them, as I remember, was seeing dysfunction as a blessing, and functioning as a curse. In the program, the participants learned to have gratitude that because they could not function, it brought them to recovery.</p><p></p><p>I have not much power at all over my son, but I can choose to see my son in this same light. That his stumbling, and bumbling and bumping, and falling, can bring him to recovery, and yes, to his higher self. And that functioning is not all that it is hyped to be. Except, I wish he functioned.</p><p></p><p>Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739480, member: 18958"] Hi Bluebell. You know how sorry I am for the pain you feel, which I know all too well. If I am honest, I was not so different at that age. The only difference was huge. I had a professional job. I had had completed college. I had my own apartment. I was in intensive therapy. So, I ask myself? What do I mean I was the same? I believed that the solutions to my life, and my attainment of "happiness" was outside of myself. I believed somebody or some career, or being married, or whatever would be the solution to my deep yearning. Even in mid-life when I adopted my son, I was operating from the same playbook. I am thinking here of Albatrosses nuggets. One of them, as I remember, was seeing dysfunction as a blessing, and functioning as a curse. In the program, the participants learned to have gratitude that because they could not function, it brought them to recovery. I have not much power at all over my son, but I can choose to see my son in this same light. That his stumbling, and bumbling and bumping, and falling, can bring him to recovery, and yes, to his higher self. And that functioning is not all that it is hyped to be. Except, I wish he functioned. Thank you very much. [/QUOTE]
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