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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 209454" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>GG I know that longing in your heart to know everyone is nearby. There is a sense of security knowing if any of the kids,grandkids,parents need something you are all there to help. I call it the "clan". (not the Klan) It's how tribes survived. You stuck to your clan and the leader new what was best. </p><p>I have friends who are more comfortable staying close to home because it feels right for them. It's a good thing. </p><p></p><p>As one of the first children who picked up and left home and the small community I can tell you that some folks are the adventurers, the scouts who go out there and explore new worlds. Some are more cautious and want to stay close and to things that are familiar. </p><p></p><p>Because he is far away does not mean you are distant. We fly more, drive more, talk on the phone more, e mail more than the older days when an hour and a half drive seemed like forever. </p><p></p><p>Also, jobs are no longer lifetime affairs. He will probably have several jobs in his lifetime and if like us, move several times in a lifetime. </p><p>His sibs and parents may love where he ends up and decide to make a change. 2 sisters, brother and father all joined us in Texas. They have since moved on but I have no doubt they will eventually gravitate to a new world where I got the priviledge of exploring first. I do not believe any of them would have ventured out first. </p><p></p><p>I have really nudged my boys to get out there and get different experiences. Get exposed to other cultures, states, weather. I want them to see a big world and realize people are really all the same despite the address. In my heart I suspect both will gravitate close to us as they age. Not sure why. If not, I will visit them, and be as involved as the family unit (d i l) wants me to be. </p><p></p><p>Your son is an explorer. He may like it. He may not. Think of it as a different chapter in your parenting book. He needs you but in a different way. You don't want to stop him from living his life. Congratulations to your son for finding what he loves and following the dream. </p><p></p><p>I am excited to see easy child this weekend and to do all the mom things I miss doing. We are celebrating Thanksgiving since he has to work. Life has a way of continuing despite changes. He thanks us regularly for giving him the freedom to do some untraditional things with his education and life. It's not what I want but it's what he wants.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 209454, member: 3"] GG I know that longing in your heart to know everyone is nearby. There is a sense of security knowing if any of the kids,grandkids,parents need something you are all there to help. I call it the "clan". (not the Klan) It's how tribes survived. You stuck to your clan and the leader new what was best. I have friends who are more comfortable staying close to home because it feels right for them. It's a good thing. As one of the first children who picked up and left home and the small community I can tell you that some folks are the adventurers, the scouts who go out there and explore new worlds. Some are more cautious and want to stay close and to things that are familiar. Because he is far away does not mean you are distant. We fly more, drive more, talk on the phone more, e mail more than the older days when an hour and a half drive seemed like forever. Also, jobs are no longer lifetime affairs. He will probably have several jobs in his lifetime and if like us, move several times in a lifetime. His sibs and parents may love where he ends up and decide to make a change. 2 sisters, brother and father all joined us in Texas. They have since moved on but I have no doubt they will eventually gravitate to a new world where I got the priviledge of exploring first. I do not believe any of them would have ventured out first. I have really nudged my boys to get out there and get different experiences. Get exposed to other cultures, states, weather. I want them to see a big world and realize people are really all the same despite the address. In my heart I suspect both will gravitate close to us as they age. Not sure why. If not, I will visit them, and be as involved as the family unit (d i l) wants me to be. Your son is an explorer. He may like it. He may not. Think of it as a different chapter in your parenting book. He needs you but in a different way. You don't want to stop him from living his life. Congratulations to your son for finding what he loves and following the dream. I am excited to see easy child this weekend and to do all the mom things I miss doing. We are celebrating Thanksgiving since he has to work. Life has a way of continuing despite changes. He thanks us regularly for giving him the freedom to do some untraditional things with his education and life. It's not what I want but it's what he wants. [/QUOTE]
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