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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 746311" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I'm with you! It boggles my mind that my son is just a few years away from being 40. When I was 40 I left a job of 20 years to move across country to my husbands home state so we could take care of his parents. It was not easy starting over but I managed to find a job and have worked the whole 16 years we have been here. My life and my sons life are polar opposites.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is where I believe nature -vs- nurture matters. My sons bio father was only in his life till he was 4 and not on a consistent basis. My son is just like him. I left him because I could not stand how irresponsible he was. At the time I was naive enough to believe him when I turned over my paychecks, that he was going to pay bills. When the bill collector showed up at our house one day and that was it for me. When I asked what happened to all the money he shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know". He was ordered to pay child support through the courts but that never happened. You cannot garnish someone's wages when they don't work. I left him when my son was 2. </p><p>No matter how hard I tried to teach my son to be responsible, he never was. Even when he was younger we told him he could earn an allowance but had to do some household chores. He would argue and pout that he didn't feel he needed to do chores and that we should just give him money because we loved him and none of his friends had to do chores. It has always amazed me just how young someone can be when they start using manipulation tactics.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 746311, member: 18516"] I'm with you! It boggles my mind that my son is just a few years away from being 40. When I was 40 I left a job of 20 years to move across country to my husbands home state so we could take care of his parents. It was not easy starting over but I managed to find a job and have worked the whole 16 years we have been here. My life and my sons life are polar opposites. This is where I believe nature -vs- nurture matters. My sons bio father was only in his life till he was 4 and not on a consistent basis. My son is just like him. I left him because I could not stand how irresponsible he was. At the time I was naive enough to believe him when I turned over my paychecks, that he was going to pay bills. When the bill collector showed up at our house one day and that was it for me. When I asked what happened to all the money he shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know". He was ordered to pay child support through the courts but that never happened. You cannot garnish someone's wages when they don't work. I left him when my son was 2. No matter how hard I tried to teach my son to be responsible, he never was. Even when he was younger we told him he could earn an allowance but had to do some household chores. He would argue and pout that he didn't feel he needed to do chores and that we should just give him money because we loved him and none of his friends had to do chores. It has always amazed me just how young someone can be when they start using manipulation tactics. [/QUOTE]
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