Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Light bulb moment.......
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 99219" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I know it must have cost you a lot of effort, but even if it only lasts a day, it was worth it.</p><p></p><p>It's especially important to nip in the bud any attempt to say, "I can't help it, I am working under the disadvantage of my disability/background/past..." because in that direction lies failure and letting the bad stuff from the past triumph over every attempt to rise above it.</p><p></p><p>We get a raw deal in life and have two choices - sink or swim. Too many people cry, "Poor me!" and wait for all the bad stuff to go away, making time in their lives as they wait. And what happens? Life passes them by. When it is all over (if it ever is) then they will find they have not marked time, they have LOST time. They have stagnated while everyone else moved on and forgot about them.</p><p></p><p>Or you cry, "Poor me!" and wait for someone else to lift the load, crying, "It's not fair, it wasn't meant to be like this, make it all go away."</p><p></p><p>But life doesn't work like that. We think we got a raw deal, there are many people in this world far worse off and with no opportunity to cry, "Make it better!" If they don't pick themselves up out of the dust on the side of the road, they will die.</p><p></p><p>We may be desperately wanting it all to get fixed, and who knows? Maybe one day that miracle will happen. But if we get on with what we can in our life, instead of sitting waiting, we will have travelled further down the road under our own team, made some progress and learned a great deal, all while we wait.</p><p></p><p>I love that line of John Lennon's from "Beautiful Boy" (Double Fantasy album) - "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans."</p><p></p><p>kt still has to learn a great deal about life and living. Yes, it is harder for her because of her earlier experiences, but they shouldn't be allowed to define or to limit her. She is bigger than that, more valuable than that. Worth far more. If anything, she can use the bad things in her past as a springboard to better things in the future - better ways of thinking, better ways of coping with danger, better ways of understanding her own capabilities. </p><p></p><p>She has already survived more than she should have had to. But she DID survive. This means she is capable of even more and already knows it, which is more than many other kids her age.</p><p></p><p>Give her a hug for me, tell her she is wonderful.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 99219, member: 1991"] I know it must have cost you a lot of effort, but even if it only lasts a day, it was worth it. It's especially important to nip in the bud any attempt to say, "I can't help it, I am working under the disadvantage of my disability/background/past..." because in that direction lies failure and letting the bad stuff from the past triumph over every attempt to rise above it. We get a raw deal in life and have two choices - sink or swim. Too many people cry, "Poor me!" and wait for all the bad stuff to go away, making time in their lives as they wait. And what happens? Life passes them by. When it is all over (if it ever is) then they will find they have not marked time, they have LOST time. They have stagnated while everyone else moved on and forgot about them. Or you cry, "Poor me!" and wait for someone else to lift the load, crying, "It's not fair, it wasn't meant to be like this, make it all go away." But life doesn't work like that. We think we got a raw deal, there are many people in this world far worse off and with no opportunity to cry, "Make it better!" If they don't pick themselves up out of the dust on the side of the road, they will die. We may be desperately wanting it all to get fixed, and who knows? Maybe one day that miracle will happen. But if we get on with what we can in our life, instead of sitting waiting, we will have travelled further down the road under our own team, made some progress and learned a great deal, all while we wait. I love that line of John Lennon's from "Beautiful Boy" (Double Fantasy album) - "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans." kt still has to learn a great deal about life and living. Yes, it is harder for her because of her earlier experiences, but they shouldn't be allowed to define or to limit her. She is bigger than that, more valuable than that. Worth far more. If anything, she can use the bad things in her past as a springboard to better things in the future - better ways of thinking, better ways of coping with danger, better ways of understanding her own capabilities. She has already survived more than she should have had to. But she DID survive. This means she is capable of even more and already knows it, which is more than many other kids her age. Give her a hug for me, tell her she is wonderful. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Light bulb moment.......
Top