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Lighting matches again!!! He's almost 14 !
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 380130" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>difficult child 3 does this, and other related things. He insists he is doing it safely, he thinks he is being safe, but he just doesn't know enough. His current 'game' is to buy party poppers and take them apart, collecting the various bits together so he can blow up the gunpowder etc separately. The room he is doing this in (when he's not doing it outside) has a very sensitive smoke detector and also is separate from the house.</p><p></p><p>We went through this with difficult child 1 too. He would bring home lighters and lighter fluid. We would find cans of lighter fluid in his bed, under the couch, everywhere. As we found lighters and lighter fluid, we confiscated them. We're just beginning to run out now (he's 27 and been married for almost 2 years).</p><p></p><p>What worked for us is to give them a pyromaniac outlet. I would sometimes toast marshmallows with the kids. We have a cast iron pizza oven in the backyard, and a lot of windfall timber (constant supply). I'd get the kids to help clean up the timber and get a fire going. Sometimes we'd also make pizza, but the aim was to keep the fire going to get rid of a lot of the timber (keeps our property safer to get the fire hazard down). But the firebugs would watch the fire and within reason, I would let them play. Safely. It did help them. It didn't eliminate the silly stuff (such as lighting matches - I can always smell when they've done this and there has to be a good reason for it) but it did greatly reduce it.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 380130, member: 1991"] difficult child 3 does this, and other related things. He insists he is doing it safely, he thinks he is being safe, but he just doesn't know enough. His current 'game' is to buy party poppers and take them apart, collecting the various bits together so he can blow up the gunpowder etc separately. The room he is doing this in (when he's not doing it outside) has a very sensitive smoke detector and also is separate from the house. We went through this with difficult child 1 too. He would bring home lighters and lighter fluid. We would find cans of lighter fluid in his bed, under the couch, everywhere. As we found lighters and lighter fluid, we confiscated them. We're just beginning to run out now (he's 27 and been married for almost 2 years). What worked for us is to give them a pyromaniac outlet. I would sometimes toast marshmallows with the kids. We have a cast iron pizza oven in the backyard, and a lot of windfall timber (constant supply). I'd get the kids to help clean up the timber and get a fire going. Sometimes we'd also make pizza, but the aim was to keep the fire going to get rid of a lot of the timber (keeps our property safer to get the fire hazard down). But the firebugs would watch the fire and within reason, I would let them play. Safely. It did help them. It didn't eliminate the silly stuff (such as lighting matches - I can always smell when they've done this and there has to be a good reason for it) but it did greatly reduce it. Marg Marg [/QUOTE]
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