Hello all. First a little introduction, Im Mary an American from Virginia currently living in Sydney Australia. My husband is Australian, yes we meet via the Internet---Dang Yahoo!! We have one precious little guy named Cody. Cody was born 25 weeks early Nov 02, he spent almost 3 months in the hospital and is a very healthy, active 5 year old. We are expecting our second child July 2nd---WOOHOOO 28 weeks along so far!!!! From the very beginning of Cody's life he was one active kid!! As he grew, became mobile I knew he was hyperactive. When he was 3 we took him to the pediatrican because I suspected ADHD, but because of his age the pediatrician wouldnt label him. Sent us away telling us to just use positive reenforcment, and ignore the bad behavior. We tried, but Cody's behavior got worse, we took him to our local GP when Cody was 4. She sent us to have some tests done in May '07 and the report said he has "emerging" symptons of ODD. Cody has been followed periodically by the Growth and Development Clinic threw our NICU, who first mentioned behavior problems at 2 1/2 but I ignored them thinking he was just really fussy that day. Our last appointment with the G&D clinic, Nov '07, suggested he be retested to for ADHD to be added to his diagnosis. Here in Australia the school year starts end of Jan. So Cody started Kindergarten this past Jan. At the orientation day I let the asst principal know he had these reports and that we had been seeing a behavior therapist since August 07. The school started immediate preps, having behavior people become involved to help Cody, his teachers and the staff learn to help him. To get the school extra funding for an aide we had to get him DEFINATELY diagnosis'd with ODD, because the reports we had said "emerging" and the school board wouldnt give him the funding the school needed for additional help in the classroom. Cody started school 3 days after the other kids, to give the other kids time to settle in before Cody got there in the midst of all the excitment. The plan was Cody only attend 1 hour a day the first week, if all went well 2 hours the next week and so on until he was going full time. Well, it has not been a smooth ride!!!! He has been "in" school about 9 weeks and is still only on 3 hour days. He has been suspended twice for hitting. We have had to pick him up early about 3 times in the last 2 weeks, they are trying to be really easy on him and remove him if it gets too much for him in the classroom. The school has recommended a behavior school in the area, we had a meeting there last week and REALLY hopeful he will get in next term. They said he probably would but not sure when because of shortage of staff. Tomorrow is the last day of this term, then a 2 week break from school and going back April 14th for the second term. I am starting to lean toward medication, especially the past 2 days. Cody is serving out his second suspension and goes back to school tomorrow. Yesterday and today he has went into meltdowns, yesterday at the grocery store---screaming, crying, hitting. Today at the mall same thing, even started trying to bite me today because I had both his hands held in mine trying to get him to the car---practically dragging him!!! I got to the point when he was biting my arm, I put his hand in his mouth and told him if he wanted to bite to go ahead and let me know how it felt. Then I felt horrible later!!! I just wanted to do an introduction of us in this first post. I have had a quick look around the forum and see there is so many posts I want to read threw. I so wish I had found this forum YEARS ago!!! I now have to go get dinner started and began bath, bedtime routine.