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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 281455" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Thank you to all the new posters. It is for sure sad to know so many affected by similar things <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" />.</p><p>I am blessed with my wonderful foster mom from my teen years in care. I can call her anytime for a loving ear. My fiance is also very much in my corner and there is nothing he won't put aside to make time if I need him. He's very sensitive to my mood. He knows when I need a healing cry. But if its a broken cry, he knows how to get me laughing and moving past as he knows that i find those type of tears damaging as opposed to healing.</p><p>I can do nothing to make my aunts or anyone come forward. They do know I am willing. They do know the prosecutor is willing and wanting to BADLY. They do know that the prosecutor needs one or more of them to come ahead with me to make a case. The balls in their court. </p><p>I do understand the feeling of what kind of people wouldn't want to help. Yet having spoken in depth with one aunt particularly, the damage to her life and psychological state is so horrible, she can't even remember under hypnosis the first 12 years of life. She wants, it appears anyhow, to be strong enough to come forward. Yet her fragile state is holding her back. I do have the impression she is trying to get support from her hubby and maybe a therapist to be able to come forward. </p><p>I do think my keeping my nose smack in the middle of this, by calling CPS, by calling the prosecutor etc, that I'll be able to ensure my sisters mother won't be allowed to have her go to visit our father. If that happens I will pursue with CPS for custody myself to protect my sister. I won't sit by while this man is near my sister. Sadly, he is with a new woman, with young daughters. I dont' have a clue who she is to tell her what she should know. I'm working on it though and if I learn who she is, I will arrive right at her door to ensure we can talk without my father stopping contact. CPS is monitoring that situation as well. </p><p>Thank you all for your votes of confidence. I know I have it in me to face him in court. Outside of court? Probably not. But in a courtroom? I could stare him in the eye and answer all questions asked. It would be healing for me to do that for sure. He no longer scares me personally. he can't hurt me directly now. I just want him stopped. I'm so grateful that the police in his area, the prosecutor and CPS are all invested in nailing his sorry butt as well. That will certainly help. </p><p>Your votes of confidence and uplifting words are so helpful everyone. Again, I can't express how much it means for you to all share in this with me and understand. </p><p>xo M.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 281455, member: 4264"] Thank you to all the new posters. It is for sure sad to know so many affected by similar things :( :( :(. I am blessed with my wonderful foster mom from my teen years in care. I can call her anytime for a loving ear. My fiance is also very much in my corner and there is nothing he won't put aside to make time if I need him. He's very sensitive to my mood. He knows when I need a healing cry. But if its a broken cry, he knows how to get me laughing and moving past as he knows that i find those type of tears damaging as opposed to healing. I can do nothing to make my aunts or anyone come forward. They do know I am willing. They do know the prosecutor is willing and wanting to BADLY. They do know that the prosecutor needs one or more of them to come ahead with me to make a case. The balls in their court. I do understand the feeling of what kind of people wouldn't want to help. Yet having spoken in depth with one aunt particularly, the damage to her life and psychological state is so horrible, she can't even remember under hypnosis the first 12 years of life. She wants, it appears anyhow, to be strong enough to come forward. Yet her fragile state is holding her back. I do have the impression she is trying to get support from her hubby and maybe a therapist to be able to come forward. I do think my keeping my nose smack in the middle of this, by calling CPS, by calling the prosecutor etc, that I'll be able to ensure my sisters mother won't be allowed to have her go to visit our father. If that happens I will pursue with CPS for custody myself to protect my sister. I won't sit by while this man is near my sister. Sadly, he is with a new woman, with young daughters. I dont' have a clue who she is to tell her what she should know. I'm working on it though and if I learn who she is, I will arrive right at her door to ensure we can talk without my father stopping contact. CPS is monitoring that situation as well. Thank you all for your votes of confidence. I know I have it in me to face him in court. Outside of court? Probably not. But in a courtroom? I could stare him in the eye and answer all questions asked. It would be healing for me to do that for sure. He no longer scares me personally. he can't hurt me directly now. I just want him stopped. I'm so grateful that the police in his area, the prosecutor and CPS are all invested in nailing his sorry butt as well. That will certainly help. Your votes of confidence and uplifting words are so helpful everyone. Again, I can't express how much it means for you to all share in this with me and understand. xo M. [/QUOTE]
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