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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 600158" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Thinking of you AG.... I agree with others, this is a good time to detach as much as you can. I totally understand helping your son out with the rent... I might have done the same. Our heartstrings get pulled and we want to help them. I do want to say try not to take personally the fact that your difficult child contacted his bio-dad.... you havent shared all the details but I gather he was quite young when you left and so he may not remember being abused.... it is common to not remember very traumatic events... and it is also common for children to want to have some kind of relationship with abusive parents. So my guess is that although contacting his bio-dad was probably partly manipulative on his part, it might not be only that.... and it might not have had that much to do with his feelings to do with you and a lot to do with his own feelings about his dad and what happened. </p><p></p><p>And that too is something he will have to figure out for himself... and my bet is that it wont take long for him to figure out what his bio dad is really like and who in his life has really been there for him (obviously you).</p><p></p><p>*TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 600158, member: 15801"] Thinking of you AG.... I agree with others, this is a good time to detach as much as you can. I totally understand helping your son out with the rent... I might have done the same. Our heartstrings get pulled and we want to help them. I do want to say try not to take personally the fact that your difficult child contacted his bio-dad.... you havent shared all the details but I gather he was quite young when you left and so he may not remember being abused.... it is common to not remember very traumatic events... and it is also common for children to want to have some kind of relationship with abusive parents. So my guess is that although contacting his bio-dad was probably partly manipulative on his part, it might not be only that.... and it might not have had that much to do with his feelings to do with you and a lot to do with his own feelings about his dad and what happened. And that too is something he will have to figure out for himself... and my bet is that it wont take long for him to figure out what his bio dad is really like and who in his life has really been there for him (obviously you). *TL [/QUOTE]
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