No, it was actually a list of things, like:
to detatch is not to manipulate the situation, but to allow the person to do such and such
To love someone is to not do everything for them, but allow them to learn to do things for themselves.
I know I'm not getting it right, but I think someone will know what I'm talking about. I used to have it laminated, on my refrigerator and I used to look at it often when things got tuff. The list made so much sense.
