I used to have tacked on the front of my refrigerator something I got here and I'm hoping someone knows what I'm talking about and can repost it because I know I found it helpful and there are others here who I think could use it right now. It was a list of sayings like, to love someone is not to manipulate them, yada yada yada. To detatch is to yada yada yada. I know someone will know what I am talking about. I hope because it doesn't sound like I know what I'm talking about as I read this. If anyone knows and can repost it, or tell me where to find it, I'd appreciate it.