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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 697741" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Welcome MJ, you're at the right place. We're glad you're here. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>When you get it, you get it. And then you can't unget it. However, you're in a sticky situation, so I would go slow. Keep it simple. Don't over-convolute this in terms of lots of terms and conditions and rules and boundaries. Don't try to force a crisis. Just decide what your one or two or three bottom lines are...right now. You can add more later/change it all if you need to. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>To my mind, if you already know (deep down) that she can't keep on living there, then you have two choices. Turn her out with some notice---she figures out when and where and how. Pay for rent somewhere for a limited period of time. </p><p></p><p>Either choice does two things: gets her out of your house.</p><p></p><p>You can't project the future, what might happen, if I do this, then she will do that...our DCs have a way of coming up with outcomes that we NEVER could have imagined. </p><p></p><p>Right now, you can only decide what you can live with and what your boundaries are...for today. </p><p></p><p>This is tough stuff, with the baby involved. We understand that. </p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide, we will be here for you. Warm hugs this morning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 697741, member: 17542"] Welcome MJ, you're at the right place. We're glad you're here. When you get it, you get it. And then you can't unget it. However, you're in a sticky situation, so I would go slow. Keep it simple. Don't over-convolute this in terms of lots of terms and conditions and rules and boundaries. Don't try to force a crisis. Just decide what your one or two or three bottom lines are...right now. You can add more later/change it all if you need to. To my mind, if you already know (deep down) that she can't keep on living there, then you have two choices. Turn her out with some notice---she figures out when and where and how. Pay for rent somewhere for a limited period of time. Either choice does two things: gets her out of your house. You can't project the future, what might happen, if I do this, then she will do that...our DCs have a way of coming up with outcomes that we NEVER could have imagined. Right now, you can only decide what you can live with and what your boundaries are...for today. This is tough stuff, with the baby involved. We understand that. Whatever you decide, we will be here for you. Warm hugs this morning. [/QUOTE]
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