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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 170731" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>My easy child will be 18 tomorrow. She has no motivation to get a job. I asked her what she is going to do when she has to pay rent. Her answer? "Get a job!" <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> So I told her go get that job.</p><p> </p><p>She works two days a week babysitting and needs to enroll in a school (community college) so that she can remain on our insurance.</p><p> </p><p>I am so waiting (yet dreading) the day she moves out.</p><p> </p><p>She is also a planner of unfullfilled dreams. This sounds like something she would do. When her high school classes ended, so did her gas money (I have to get her to school but that is it, no where else). She doesn't ask for as much as I thought she would. Though she is sneaky (or tries to be) - today I had to go with her to renew her driver's liscense (she will be 18 tomorrow but because she is still 17, a parent has to sign). She could wait until tomorrow and do it without me but I wanted to make sure it was done so told her I would meet her there. Her reply, "are you going to pay for it also?" "Of course not!!" She had money in savings for a trip to NY - I told her to take money from savings and repay it, "No, I tried that already and I never repay it."</p><p> </p><p>If you are o.k. with her going - let her go - but do let her know that she can come back. When she does come back then place a time limit on her visit home. Sometimes when kids are told they can't come home, they won't ask when really need to.</p><p> </p><p>Tell Mr. XH that if he doesn't want her to go, it is up to him to convince her (sounds like he tries to make the decisions only to have you enforce them) to stay because you are o.k. with it.</p><p> </p><p>I would also make her pay her own way there (though if she needs to come home, you can send her one ticket).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 170731, member: 5096"] My easy child will be 18 tomorrow. She has no motivation to get a job. I asked her what she is going to do when she has to pay rent. Her answer? "Get a job!" :rofl: :rofl: So I told her go get that job. She works two days a week babysitting and needs to enroll in a school (community college) so that she can remain on our insurance. I am so waiting (yet dreading) the day she moves out. She is also a planner of unfullfilled dreams. This sounds like something she would do. When her high school classes ended, so did her gas money (I have to get her to school but that is it, no where else). She doesn't ask for as much as I thought she would. Though she is sneaky (or tries to be) - today I had to go with her to renew her driver's liscense (she will be 18 tomorrow but because she is still 17, a parent has to sign). She could wait until tomorrow and do it without me but I wanted to make sure it was done so told her I would meet her there. Her reply, "are you going to pay for it also?" "Of course not!!" She had money in savings for a trip to NY - I told her to take money from savings and repay it, "No, I tried that already and I never repay it." If you are o.k. with her going - let her go - but do let her know that she can come back. When she does come back then place a time limit on her visit home. Sometimes when kids are told they can't come home, they won't ask when really need to. Tell Mr. XH that if he doesn't want her to go, it is up to him to convince her (sounds like he tries to make the decisions only to have you enforce them) to stay because you are o.k. with it. I would also make her pay her own way there (though if she needs to come home, you can send her one ticket). [/QUOTE]
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