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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 748051" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>So sorry to hear of the problems with your daughter. My son is currently in jail. He has been locked up many times and still hasn't figured it out. I have bailed him out in the past but not for a long time. My justification for doing this was he was young and I didn't want him to have a record that would follow him for the rest of his life. Well he showed me, he just kept getting in more and more trouble. For me, personally I felt like I needed to do this to give him a chance. If I could have seen in the future I would have not done it. In the past he has missed his court date and things were worse for him. I really didn't realize how much his drug usage was affecting his decision making. You didn't say if your daughter is using drugs. I have long thought that people pick friends they are most comfortable with. If she is a drug user or thinks less of herself those are the friends she will choose. It is not so much about the men she choose but about herself. You can still support her but just not bail her out. You can send her books to read, you can offer help with counseling when she is released. You can even put a little money on her books. I know that some people think you shouldn't give them anything but she is still being punished sitting in a little cell ,having people tell her when she can shower and eat. </p><p>I know how hard it is when they are crying on the phone. I just went through it last week. The good thing is my son called me back later that day and apologized. This is an improvement for him. I still wonder if he is doing it to stay on my good side but he has been pretty good about not acting if I owe him for the last 8 months or so. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 748051, member: 23328"] So sorry to hear of the problems with your daughter. My son is currently in jail. He has been locked up many times and still hasn't figured it out. I have bailed him out in the past but not for a long time. My justification for doing this was he was young and I didn't want him to have a record that would follow him for the rest of his life. Well he showed me, he just kept getting in more and more trouble. For me, personally I felt like I needed to do this to give him a chance. If I could have seen in the future I would have not done it. In the past he has missed his court date and things were worse for him. I really didn't realize how much his drug usage was affecting his decision making. You didn't say if your daughter is using drugs. I have long thought that people pick friends they are most comfortable with. If she is a drug user or thinks less of herself those are the friends she will choose. It is not so much about the men she choose but about herself. You can still support her but just not bail her out. You can send her books to read, you can offer help with counseling when she is released. You can even put a little money on her books. I know that some people think you shouldn't give them anything but she is still being punished sitting in a little cell ,having people tell her when she can shower and eat. I know how hard it is when they are crying on the phone. I just went through it last week. The good thing is my son called me back later that day and apologized. This is an improvement for him. I still wonder if he is doing it to stay on my good side but he has been pretty good about not acting if I owe him for the last 8 months or so. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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