Hello - I am new here - I was reading some of the stories and the answers are exactly what I have been hearing from my family. My daughter is 19 and in jail 3 states away! She started with a bad crowd in high school. She graduated, thankfully. But has had one bad boyfriend after another. This last one being the worst, obviously. Just like the comments Ive seen. She tells me what I want to hear, so I feel bad and want to bail her out. But if I say, No. She gets mean and says I dont care about her and things like that. My heart has been broken over and over. Im trying to do the tough love thing and tell her she made her bed and she has to sleep in it now. But she is so young and I feel Im abandoning her. But I also feel, if I bail her out, she will run and not make her next court date. I dont think she is grasping the severity of what is happening. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for the past few years with her.