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Lost & Confused: 18 YO Struggling With Depression
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714221" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Truth from one who battled severe, suicidal depresiion but accepted help: the best psychiatrist on earth and most skilled psychologist you can lead him to will both fail him if he refuses medication and thinks nobody will help him and refuses to try HARD. Nobody can help him if he wont do what the doctor says. No doctor can make him try either. You can look all over the world.</p><p></p><p>I have been on medications (antidepressant) most of my life it took a while to find the best AD for me, but it transformed my life and I never quit therapy or reading up on the latest therapy for depression (did much self help). I was my best advocate. Nobody else could be.</p><p></p><p>Your son is his own worst enemy.</p><p></p><p>On top of that it sounds like either substance abuse (which I never did at all) or possible personality problems co-exist with the depression. Depression doesnt cause reckless behavior, bad choices or verbal abuse nor car accidents and DUIs.</p><p></p><p>But whatever is going on, healing has got to come ftom him. By 18 I knew I had serious issues and was eager to find out what was wrong and to fix it, and mentally I was very depressed snd suicidal at the time. Still... I tried very hard, even though I was terrified nothing would work.</p><p></p><p>You cant do anything for your son. He has to do it. I had no parental support at all. None. I did it all on my own and your son also must do it, even at only 18. Legally you can not force him to get help. Maybe he shouldnt drive. If that were my kid, my letting him drive while under my roof would have ended long ago. With the first crash probably. After the DUI definitely.</p><p></p><p>He could work and buy his own older car in his own name and pay for his insurance or walk or ride a bike or take public transportation. He is able bodied and can work with depression. Depression is very common. Most work. I had to work.</p><p></p><p>Cars are a luxury your son has proven he is not able to use responsibly. I stopped allowing my daughter to drive our car after her first irresponsible accident which destroyed our van.</p><p></p><p>Please take care of your own health and state of mind. Your son will get help when/if he is ready and is not making excuses to NOT get help.</p><p></p><p>His quick good moods are more indicative of maybe substance abuse than depression. In my years of depression, i was depressed all the time. It did not remit even when life outwardly got better. The medications and therapy helped only.</p><p></p><p>Whatever is going on with son, dont drive yourself crazy trying to fix him. Get in therapy to help YOU cope and try to live a great life in spite of your son because you matter too and your other loved ones want you to be healthy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714221, member: 1550"] Truth from one who battled severe, suicidal depresiion but accepted help: the best psychiatrist on earth and most skilled psychologist you can lead him to will both fail him if he refuses medication and thinks nobody will help him and refuses to try HARD. Nobody can help him if he wont do what the doctor says. No doctor can make him try either. You can look all over the world. I have been on medications (antidepressant) most of my life it took a while to find the best AD for me, but it transformed my life and I never quit therapy or reading up on the latest therapy for depression (did much self help). I was my best advocate. Nobody else could be. Your son is his own worst enemy. On top of that it sounds like either substance abuse (which I never did at all) or possible personality problems co-exist with the depression. Depression doesnt cause reckless behavior, bad choices or verbal abuse nor car accidents and DUIs. But whatever is going on, healing has got to come ftom him. By 18 I knew I had serious issues and was eager to find out what was wrong and to fix it, and mentally I was very depressed snd suicidal at the time. Still... I tried very hard, even though I was terrified nothing would work. You cant do anything for your son. He has to do it. I had no parental support at all. None. I did it all on my own and your son also must do it, even at only 18. Legally you can not force him to get help. Maybe he shouldnt drive. If that were my kid, my letting him drive while under my roof would have ended long ago. With the first crash probably. After the DUI definitely. He could work and buy his own older car in his own name and pay for his insurance or walk or ride a bike or take public transportation. He is able bodied and can work with depression. Depression is very common. Most work. I had to work. Cars are a luxury your son has proven he is not able to use responsibly. I stopped allowing my daughter to drive our car after her first irresponsible accident which destroyed our van. Please take care of your own health and state of mind. Your son will get help when/if he is ready and is not making excuses to NOT get help. His quick good moods are more indicative of maybe substance abuse than depression. In my years of depression, i was depressed all the time. It did not remit even when life outwardly got better. The medications and therapy helped only. Whatever is going on with son, dont drive yourself crazy trying to fix him. Get in therapy to help YOU cope and try to live a great life in spite of your son because you matter too and your other loved ones want you to be healthy. [/QUOTE]
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