For the first time difficult child 1 has lost friends because of his melt downs. He can normally keep himself together in front of others but the last day of school he had a major meltdown coming home from school. husband was also taking difficult child's friends home. They live next door to us. difficult child was screaming his head off on the drive home. They haven't played with him since. I thought it was because of Christmas business, but Friday I called to ask if difficult child could play. He couldn't becuase someone was sick. I asked if his friend could come over here. The mom would rather that they play tommorrow when the sick person wasn't there and said they would get difficult child about 10 am. 11 am Saturday difficult child calls and is told that they can't play until 4 pm because they are cleaning and taking naps. Right before 4 pm I notice that they've been outside playing. They never come over; never ask difficult child to come play. I wish the mom would just tell me she doesn't want them playing together. I understand that this would be hard to say to someone though. I understand why she doesn't want her kids playing with difficult child. I understand why the kids wouldn't want to play with him. It just a sad situation. I don't want difficult child's feeling hurt. We went out to get an ice cream cone to distract him from playing with his friends. Eventually I'm going to have to tell him that they don't want to play with him, but, oh am I dreading it. On a happier note its easy child's 1st birthday today! As I was starting to type this difficult child 2 was spitting raisins at easy child. easy child was giggling each time he'd get hit with one, and then he'd eat it. The cute joys of baby hood.