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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 599549" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>You've been coping with really BIG issues this month and maybe ??? that makes this issue more important because it "should be" something that can be controlled and it's turned into a "bucking" issue. Even if the kids are easy child's the two of them could be baiting you just to see if you will "blow". Maybe ???</p><p></p><p>My personality is different and therefore my methods were different. I did NOT raise perfect kids nor was I a perfect Mom. on the other hand I found that the less I spoke the more results I got. I made lists (as short as possible) of chores and posted them on the refrigerator. Although I would occasionally say "remember to check your list" I didn't dwell on it.</p><p>IF they did not do what was required as a family member......I did not do what they asked me to do for their personal convenience. I did not drive them. I did not allow sleepovers. I did not make their favorite meals or take them shopping etc. No arguments or elevated voices. The philosophy was simple. We are a family and each of us has chores and responsibilities. As the Mom my list is longest and hardest but your help is needed. We can work as a team and have a pleasant family or we can each opt to be selfish. Mostly...it worked for me. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 599549, member: 35"] You've been coping with really BIG issues this month and maybe ??? that makes this issue more important because it "should be" something that can be controlled and it's turned into a "bucking" issue. Even if the kids are easy child's the two of them could be baiting you just to see if you will "blow". Maybe ??? My personality is different and therefore my methods were different. I did NOT raise perfect kids nor was I a perfect Mom. on the other hand I found that the less I spoke the more results I got. I made lists (as short as possible) of chores and posted them on the refrigerator. Although I would occasionally say "remember to check your list" I didn't dwell on it. IF they did not do what was required as a family member......I did not do what they asked me to do for their personal convenience. I did not drive them. I did not allow sleepovers. I did not make their favorite meals or take them shopping etc. No arguments or elevated voices. The philosophy was simple. We are a family and each of us has chores and responsibilities. As the Mom my list is longest and hardest but your help is needed. We can work as a team and have a pleasant family or we can each opt to be selfish. Mostly...it worked for me. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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