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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 532145" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>When you go to court do everything in your power not to let Bozo or your daughter see you cry. The fact that Bozo has hauled you to court tells me my first fear was unjustified; I've been wondering for the past week if my girls Xfather had hooked up with your daughter. But my X the only way getting him in a courthouse is in handcuffs so it's not him. There may be hope for your daughter yet.</p><p></p><p>Right now she is starry eyed and going to have tunnel vision when it comes to Bozo, anything coming between them is unwelcome. I still think the key is within yourself; you need to allow yourself to heal there is a lot of repair work to be done in your life. I was where you are at years ago (though I had taken the roles of both you and your daughter) and the grief almost completely consumed me. It was like before I could expect anyone else to love me I had to learn to love myself. I wanted to just crawl under a rock and die - but I couldn't I had 3 kids that really needed me to survive because I was the only parent they had.</p><p></p><p>I got help it's how I can still function today I doubt I would have survived without it; my mom never got help and it turned her into a difficult child who is lonely and bitter, and she gets really mad when people don't agree with her on everything/ anything</p><p></p><p>I can't see into the future but either way it goes - </p><p></p><p>She lives happily ever after with Bozo and has a half dozen little bozo's bouncing off the walls...</p><p> or</p><p>The whole thing crashes & burns because she finally realizes Bozo is a CLOWN and she needs to flee...</p><p></p><p>I still think the key is to allow yourself to heal, time will soften some of the hurt between you and your daughter (if no one is feeding the fire so to speak) and hopefully in the future you can have a relationship with your daughter if nothing else to watch the circus dwellers while she goes to see a movie. </p><p></p><p>For a while I thought Bozo was my X if he is LIKE MY X it's only a matter of time before this whole thing blows up in your daughters face and she is going to need the loving arms of her mother to run to.</p><p></p><p>For now figure out a way to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with your day. If what your doing isn't productive look for something else to do. Your kids ALL OF THEM NEED YOU TO SURVIVE! </p><p></p><p>I know some of my posts sounded like I was scolding and I'm sorry for that, I didn't mean to scold - I'm worried, I'm a mom it's what I do! I worry because I care and Dotty as long as someone cares you will never be alone. (((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 532145, member: 7170"] When you go to court do everything in your power not to let Bozo or your daughter see you cry. The fact that Bozo has hauled you to court tells me my first fear was unjustified; I've been wondering for the past week if my girls Xfather had hooked up with your daughter. But my X the only way getting him in a courthouse is in handcuffs so it's not him. There may be hope for your daughter yet. Right now she is starry eyed and going to have tunnel vision when it comes to Bozo, anything coming between them is unwelcome. I still think the key is within yourself; you need to allow yourself to heal there is a lot of repair work to be done in your life. I was where you are at years ago (though I had taken the roles of both you and your daughter) and the grief almost completely consumed me. It was like before I could expect anyone else to love me I had to learn to love myself. I wanted to just crawl under a rock and die - but I couldn't I had 3 kids that really needed me to survive because I was the only parent they had. I got help it's how I can still function today I doubt I would have survived without it; my mom never got help and it turned her into a difficult child who is lonely and bitter, and she gets really mad when people don't agree with her on everything/ anything I can't see into the future but either way it goes - She lives happily ever after with Bozo and has a half dozen little bozo's bouncing off the walls... or The whole thing crashes & burns because she finally realizes Bozo is a CLOWN and she needs to flee... I still think the key is to allow yourself to heal, time will soften some of the hurt between you and your daughter (if no one is feeding the fire so to speak) and hopefully in the future you can have a relationship with your daughter if nothing else to watch the circus dwellers while she goes to see a movie. For a while I thought Bozo was my X if he is LIKE MY X it's only a matter of time before this whole thing blows up in your daughters face and she is going to need the loving arms of her mother to run to. For now figure out a way to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with your day. If what your doing isn't productive look for something else to do. Your kids ALL OF THEM NEED YOU TO SURVIVE! I know some of my posts sounded like I was scolding and I'm sorry for that, I didn't mean to scold - I'm worried, I'm a mom it's what I do! I worry because I care and Dotty as long as someone cares you will never be alone. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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