I feel really sad for Nichole this evening. Today on the way to driving her to school she said she had brought up the subject of marriage to b/f again. This surprised me as she hasn't been doing any info giving on their relationship since I let them have it so bad a while back. So.... I said, "And...." "He says it really scares him Mom" I say,"Marriage scares most people. So? Does he say he wants to get married?" "He says he does. And so I told him my finger is getting awfully lonely." "And...." "And he says he's scared it'll wind up like most people who get married after having a baby." Then we have sister in law's birthday dinner and cake tonight. While picking up the cake a store clerk deliberately insulted Nichole by referring to her as male. easy child told sister in law about it. After teasing Nichole a bit, he asked if she wanted him to go belt the guy. Nichole said no. So sister in law asked if b/f was going to go at least tell the guy off? Nichole says Yeah, right. sister in law says,"Oh, that's right. Whimp doesn't care enough to stick up for you, I have to do it for him." Nichole says," You know, yeah it's true. He wouldn't. And that's awful to say." Why can't she see that he doesn't feel for her the way she does for him? I don't even think he loves her. All of his behavior and actions actually scream that he doesn't give a hoot about her. And still she doesn't get it, doesn't see it. She just keeps letting him hurt her over and over. Nichole just had a major falling out with her best friend N. Nichole asked N to please not bring her abusive b/f around anymore. N didn't take it well. I reminded Nichole that her own b/f has pushed her, thrown her down, and choked her. Oh, but Mom that was because I'd push or hit him. I told her again that just because you provolk someone into violence doesn't make YOU less guilty of violence yourself. He has no excuse to put his hands on her for ANY reason. psychiatrist also tried to stress this during last appoint. She didn't get any further than I did. Jerko b/f broke her heart again when he didn't offer a ring. But he made ME mad as heck when I discovered he'd managed to wheedle her out of her 300.00+ refund college check in less than 2 wks! Oh, yeah. He'll be paying daycare for the baby next quarter. I just wish the blinders would lift enough for her to see the truth.