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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 545725" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Just wanted to echo what the others have said. Stay strong. She will push every button she can think of to get you to change your mind, but remember that <strong>this was her choice.</strong> She had lots of time to explore her options, and she chose not to. If to helps you to research shelters and email them to her, do it. But truthfully, until she is forced to take responsibility for herself, she won't do it. If you let her come back, you not only lose credibility, you will be right back where you started. She needs to know that you mean business. Let her figure this out. It's her job to do so, not yours. </p><p></p><p>You don't have to answer the phone every time she calls. You can let it go to voice mail, or wait to respond to a text, to give yourself time to think. This was one of the hardest thing I had to learn .. I'd look at the caller ID and think "oh no, what now?" But I'd answer anyway, and sometimes got put on the spot for an answer to a question I wasn't prepared for. Answer/reply when you're in the right frame of mind to deal with it. The panicked phone calls and texts can become another form of control ... don't let her have that control. </p><p></p><p>You can do this, and we're benind you. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 545725, member: 1157"] Just wanted to echo what the others have said. Stay strong. She will push every button she can think of to get you to change your mind, but remember that [b]this was her choice.[/b] She had lots of time to explore her options, and she chose not to. If to helps you to research shelters and email them to her, do it. But truthfully, until she is forced to take responsibility for herself, she won't do it. If you let her come back, you not only lose credibility, you will be right back where you started. She needs to know that you mean business. Let her figure this out. It's her job to do so, not yours. You don't have to answer the phone every time she calls. You can let it go to voice mail, or wait to respond to a text, to give yourself time to think. This was one of the hardest thing I had to learn .. I'd look at the caller ID and think "oh no, what now?" But I'd answer anyway, and sometimes got put on the spot for an answer to a question I wasn't prepared for. Answer/reply when you're in the right frame of mind to deal with it. The panicked phone calls and texts can become another form of control ... don't let her have that control. You can do this, and we're benind you. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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