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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 80436" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><em>There is an issue of trust. Some relationships have it and some relationships for reasons of past behavior do not. </em></p><p><em>It's not to say that your husband won't have a bit of a question mark in the back of his mind that you preferred friend to husband.</em></p><p></p><p>Fran, this is very true. I think H completely trusts me and I do trust him...but...</p><p></p><p><em>Truthfully, I think it's much more dangerous to have an online relationship than a very open social lunch. The internet by it's very nature is an invitation into your home and has that sense of intimacy. No waiters are watching what is written. No bumping into old friends.</em></p><p></p><p>...not when it comes to the internet. I have a small issue with H's boss's girlfriend sending H risque/bordeline pornographic in nature emails to my H. Now, my H almost never even checks his emails and when he does, he will even sometimes call me in to see it, but it just bugs me that she is so forward in this regard. Also, I know H has viewed questionable material on line and that goes against my personal feelings about such things.</p><p></p><p>As far as actually going out and cheating on one another? I can honestly say that I do not think it would ever happen.</p><p></p><p>I have always had many guy friends, but of course, after marriage, we grew apart from one another. I don't think H will be upset by this lunch thing. As you said, it's not like we snuck off somewhere; we were out in the open, ran into a friend and his entire staff knew about it - we weren't hiding anything. And I do not feel any guilt whatsoever...I mostly just wanted to hear what others had to say. Thanks!</p><p></p><p>And klfd - I do think personal experience and prior incidents very much are linked to how anyone would percieve this and react to this. Hugs~</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 80436, member: 2211"] [i]There is an issue of trust. Some relationships have it and some relationships for reasons of past behavior do not. It's not to say that your husband won't have a bit of a question mark in the back of his mind that you preferred friend to husband.[/i] Fran, this is very true. I think H completely trusts me and I do trust him...but... [i]Truthfully, I think it's much more dangerous to have an online relationship than a very open social lunch. The internet by it's very nature is an invitation into your home and has that sense of intimacy. No waiters are watching what is written. No bumping into old friends.[/i] ...not when it comes to the internet. I have a small issue with H's boss's girlfriend sending H risque/bordeline pornographic in nature emails to my H. Now, my H almost never even checks his emails and when he does, he will even sometimes call me in to see it, but it just bugs me that she is so forward in this regard. Also, I know H has viewed questionable material on line and that goes against my personal feelings about such things. As far as actually going out and cheating on one another? I can honestly say that I do not think it would ever happen. I have always had many guy friends, but of course, after marriage, we grew apart from one another. I don't think H will be upset by this lunch thing. As you said, it's not like we snuck off somewhere; we were out in the open, ran into a friend and his entire staff knew about it - we weren't hiding anything. And I do not feel any guilt whatsoever...I mostly just wanted to hear what others had to say. Thanks! And klfd - I do think personal experience and prior incidents very much are linked to how anyone would percieve this and react to this. Hugs~ [/QUOTE]
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