Hi all, I used to be on here as "Loving Abbey" and haven't been on in a while. It seems that over the last year and a half I have just been trying to get my little girl back. (Short version: major medication change led to hospitalization). She hasn't needed to be restrained in 4 months which is great and I felt like we were making slow progress. difficult child recently was given the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified diagnosis, where as before it was just Bipolar. All the doctors seems to think both are necessary and accurate, along with anxiety disorder-not otherwise specified. I am coming to the end of my rope. Two months ago difficult child went into a neighbor's home when they weren't home because she forgot a doll there and the 5 yo little boy next door told her with was ok. Keep in mind we have only lived in this neighborhood for 4 months. That and several blow ups playing with other children has resulted in her already alienating all the kids on the block. difficult child has consistantly been lying and we are constantly re-drecting and addressing it as calmly as possible. She had stolen a few things out of my and SO's bedroom and we had talked with her about it and she lost priviledges for a week. I thought we had nipped it in the bud. Last night I found my SO's mother's favorite earrings in difficult child's pockets while doing laundry. I don't know what to do about the stealing. I don't understand why she is doing this. I have always tried to teach her values and morals and set a good example for her but it seems that often she does not care about anyone else's feelings. We have structure built into everyday and a rewards/priviledges system that has really helped with a lot of behaviors (though it took about 6 months for her to respond to that system). She has an individual theraptist, and sees the school SW one-on-one and in a social skills group since Kindergarten. She is followed closely by a psychiatrist and we occasionally consult with a psychiatrist/developmental pediatrician who specializes in spectrum kids. We have had home based services on and off for the last year and we will be beginning the PASS program (basically a worker for difficult child that works on social community based goals with difficult child up to 20hrs per week). We have to go to my SO's parent's home tonight and tell them what happened, I don't know how they are going to react. It is possible that they won't want Abbey in their home anymore. And I can't say that I blame them. They have treated difficult child better than my family ever has. She doesn't really seem sorry and started throwing a fit this am when I told her that she would not be going to the beach today and would not be sleeping over at SO's parents home tonight, as if she had done nothing wrong. I just don't understand and I don't even know what the appropriate consequence would be at this point. Right now, she has lost all priviledges indefinitely, but I don't even know if that's going to make a difference. Any thoughts or ideas PLEASE?!?!?