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<blockquote data-quote="Sam3" data-source="post: 718666" data-attributes="member: 19290"><p>I plumbed the depths searching for my instinct before allowing him back home. It was beyond a simple maternal one or even an enmeshed one that Copa's thoughts on the topic resonated with me. Maybe they would not have so much if my son had ever been employed, or if he had not shown so much anxiety based avoidance growing up. it doesn't feel like he has bootstraps</p><p></p><p>And sorry for using the word punishment in this context. I agree that It a consequence. I think it's that even though my consequences came with Swiss watch reliability, my sons executive function just did not process the connextions in an age appropriate way. Like some kind of magic would intervene between what he wanted in the moment and what that meant later on. It was painful to watch and I didn't know then about ODD. Obviously there had to be some dark magic working against him (aka me). One kid's lesson learned is another kids reason to go even further underground. Foundational ODD thinking. He's wounded but is only starting to bring online the understanding that it's self-inflicted. I think he might be raging now at that inescapable realization.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sam3, post: 718666, member: 19290"] I plumbed the depths searching for my instinct before allowing him back home. It was beyond a simple maternal one or even an enmeshed one that Copa's thoughts on the topic resonated with me. Maybe they would not have so much if my son had ever been employed, or if he had not shown so much anxiety based avoidance growing up. it doesn't feel like he has bootstraps And sorry for using the word punishment in this context. I agree that It a consequence. I think it's that even though my consequences came with Swiss watch reliability, my sons executive function just did not process the connextions in an age appropriate way. Like some kind of magic would intervene between what he wanted in the moment and what that meant later on. It was painful to watch and I didn't know then about ODD. Obviously there had to be some dark magic working against him (aka me). One kid's lesson learned is another kids reason to go even further underground. Foundational ODD thinking. He's wounded but is only starting to bring online the understanding that it's self-inflicted. I think he might be raging now at that inescapable realization. [/QUOTE]
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