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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 233841" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi</p><p> </p><p>i got a hold of her pediatrician dr. he's great, he wrote a letter and faxed it to the school. so at least i am covered on some level.</p><p> </p><p>She's calm now, she doesn't sleep after this sort of thing, sh'es been a bit off lately mixed between hyper and anger. so she's up and totally awake. i took her to fill her new medications, than for hot chocolate and we talked for a bit.</p><p> </p><p>I said to her we have to talk about thsi morning. She said i don't want to!! She shuts down sort of thing. I said it's important that we both talk thru this and figure out a way to handle it better next time so that this doesnt' happen.</p><p> </p><p>So, we came up with a code word for when her anger is mixing with the anxiety and she isn't able to be expressive about what she is feeling. I said what we will do from now on is once you say that word all will cease. I"m sure she will test me and manipulate me a bit with the word yet we need some clear cut communication between us when things spiral as they did today.</p><p> </p><p>She picked a silly word. I said when that happens we will stop, think and listen to eachother. I said we'll stop whatever we're doing, we'll sit together and hold hands and do our breathing, she ofcourse said screw the breathing it doesnt' work!! I said maybe if i hold your hand as I do at bedtime it will assist you more. I said once we are able to be calm than maybe just maybe we can talk about it.</p><p> </p><p>I said it's important we both be successful with our days. I said you belong in school. She said i hate school, i have no friends (she's having friend issues again with the one friend she has), I said Mom belongs at work when you are in school. </p><p> </p><p>She's having major problems in school with friends. Her neediness level is increasing due to her anxiety and she is being very "clingy" with the one friend and it's making the friend move away from her even more.</p><p> </p><p>It's very hard to explain to a difficult child friendships I find. How to make them, and more importantly how to maintain them. difficult child is so very sensitive like a kid without a filter so it all hits her head on. </p><p> </p><p>boyfriend calmed me down. He text me throughout the thing, he's good like that. It just hurts me that she slipped back again. It's weird too becasue last night i posted something about all her diagnosis's after coming bck from the dr. appointment i was a bit overwhelmed by the entire difficult child picture last night. </p><p> </p><p>Granted this isn't as bad as what alot of you have gone thru. Yet I see that the possiblity exists for her behaviors to worsen with age and puberty around the corner. I always think of that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 233841, member: 4514"] hi i got a hold of her pediatrician dr. he's great, he wrote a letter and faxed it to the school. so at least i am covered on some level. She's calm now, she doesn't sleep after this sort of thing, sh'es been a bit off lately mixed between hyper and anger. so she's up and totally awake. i took her to fill her new medications, than for hot chocolate and we talked for a bit. I said to her we have to talk about thsi morning. She said i don't want to!! She shuts down sort of thing. I said it's important that we both talk thru this and figure out a way to handle it better next time so that this doesnt' happen. So, we came up with a code word for when her anger is mixing with the anxiety and she isn't able to be expressive about what she is feeling. I said what we will do from now on is once you say that word all will cease. I"m sure she will test me and manipulate me a bit with the word yet we need some clear cut communication between us when things spiral as they did today. She picked a silly word. I said when that happens we will stop, think and listen to eachother. I said we'll stop whatever we're doing, we'll sit together and hold hands and do our breathing, she ofcourse said screw the breathing it doesnt' work!! I said maybe if i hold your hand as I do at bedtime it will assist you more. I said once we are able to be calm than maybe just maybe we can talk about it. I said it's important we both be successful with our days. I said you belong in school. She said i hate school, i have no friends (she's having friend issues again with the one friend she has), I said Mom belongs at work when you are in school. She's having major problems in school with friends. Her neediness level is increasing due to her anxiety and she is being very "clingy" with the one friend and it's making the friend move away from her even more. It's very hard to explain to a difficult child friendships I find. How to make them, and more importantly how to maintain them. difficult child is so very sensitive like a kid without a filter so it all hits her head on. boyfriend calmed me down. He text me throughout the thing, he's good like that. It just hurts me that she slipped back again. It's weird too becasue last night i posted something about all her diagnosis's after coming bck from the dr. appointment i was a bit overwhelmed by the entire difficult child picture last night. Granted this isn't as bad as what alot of you have gone thru. Yet I see that the possiblity exists for her behaviors to worsen with age and puberty around the corner. I always think of that. [/QUOTE]
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