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<blockquote data-quote="butterflydreams" data-source="post: 233853"><p>My difficult child has a huge history of school refusal because of anxiety as well. He has numerous absences since he was discharged to go back to school in November. His school counselor threatened me last week with educational neglect - that he needs to go to school. She said she does not see the behaviors at school that I have described. I told her that is because when he is having difficulty he doesn't go to school, when he does go to school he is having a good day. Duh! Anyway, she told me that I need to call the school attendance office every time he refuses and have the school police come out and talk to him. I told her that this would only make things worse. Monday of this week was day 4 in a row for him to refuse this time. He has been sliding downhill for weeks. Monday the psychiatrist said he needs to go inpatient again.</p><p></p><p>I called yesterday and left a message for the school nurse and for the counselor to call me. They called this morning and I told them that difficult child was back in the psychiatric hospital. His counselor said like I told you before we can not put anything in place like you have asked for because we do not see the behaviors you describe at school - to them it just looks like school refusal.</p><p></p><p>difficult child missed a good portion of the school year last year because he was either inpatient or in partial - he was assigned to a different school until May, then he started at this school when he came out of the psychiatric hospital in May. So they saw him for about 3 weeks or so then. He went into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in July and didn't start back to regular school until mid-November. Last spring I had sent in a certified letter requesting him be evaluated for a IEP. He is smart, but when he is unstable he really has difficulty. I was told that they would start the evaluation in the Fall. Well he wasn't there because he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Now his counselor is saying that they can't evaluate him because he hasn't been at school long enough and from what she has seen he doesn't need any supports other than the counselors pass that she has given him that he has only used a couple of times.</p><p></p><p>It's just frustrating because they think they know everything. He has been in and out of the psychiatric hospital over the course of the last year, doesn't that say that something is wrong? Because he missed so much last year he didn't have some of the bases down to help him this year. Then he missed the first part of the school year, after he started, he told his math teacher that he didn't know the algebra they were working on (he's 7th grade) and she couldn't understand why. I was told that it was his fault that he missed and that it was HIS responsibility to get caught up. </p><p></p><p>I have an advocate from a local resource organization that is going to go to a meeting with me. I have to wait now until we know when to anticipate him going back to school.</p><p></p><p>Sorry this is so long.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="butterflydreams, post: 233853"] My difficult child has a huge history of school refusal because of anxiety as well. He has numerous absences since he was discharged to go back to school in November. His school counselor threatened me last week with educational neglect - that he needs to go to school. She said she does not see the behaviors at school that I have described. I told her that is because when he is having difficulty he doesn't go to school, when he does go to school he is having a good day. Duh! Anyway, she told me that I need to call the school attendance office every time he refuses and have the school police come out and talk to him. I told her that this would only make things worse. Monday of this week was day 4 in a row for him to refuse this time. He has been sliding downhill for weeks. Monday the psychiatrist said he needs to go inpatient again. I called yesterday and left a message for the school nurse and for the counselor to call me. They called this morning and I told them that difficult child was back in the psychiatric hospital. His counselor said like I told you before we can not put anything in place like you have asked for because we do not see the behaviors you describe at school - to them it just looks like school refusal. difficult child missed a good portion of the school year last year because he was either inpatient or in partial - he was assigned to a different school until May, then he started at this school when he came out of the psychiatric hospital in May. So they saw him for about 3 weeks or so then. He went into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in July and didn't start back to regular school until mid-November. Last spring I had sent in a certified letter requesting him be evaluated for a IEP. He is smart, but when he is unstable he really has difficulty. I was told that they would start the evaluation in the Fall. Well he wasn't there because he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Now his counselor is saying that they can't evaluate him because he hasn't been at school long enough and from what she has seen he doesn't need any supports other than the counselors pass that she has given him that he has only used a couple of times. It's just frustrating because they think they know everything. He has been in and out of the psychiatric hospital over the course of the last year, doesn't that say that something is wrong? Because he missed so much last year he didn't have some of the bases down to help him this year. Then he missed the first part of the school year, after he started, he told his math teacher that he didn't know the algebra they were working on (he's 7th grade) and she couldn't understand why. I was told that it was his fault that he missed and that it was HIS responsibility to get caught up. I have an advocate from a local resource organization that is going to go to a meeting with me. I have to wait now until we know when to anticipate him going back to school. Sorry this is so long. [/QUOTE]
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