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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 106688" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>You know, my heart is aching for you right now. Can any more "stuff" hit the fan at once for you or what?!!</p><p></p><p>My view on your "stuff":</p><p></p><p>difficult child - sounds like a great kid. Why is he listed on your profile as "not tested" for the bipolar etc.? Have they been medicating without a diagnosis? I'm confused. Have you had a neuropsychologist done on him?</p><p></p><p>difficult child's problems because of "you" - One thing that I often said about my kids from the day they were born (before we knew that they had disabilities)was "well, nowadays everyone blames their mom for everything, so if I'm doing my job right, they'll be "on the couch" (with a psychiatrist) when they're 21 telling them "I hate my mother BECAUSE...". Ok, so 5 was the age that I should have been talking about. The point is: if they came with an instruction manual and you ignored it, THEN it would be your fault. We each deal with life as it comes. If you perceive that you're doing something wrong: change it. </p><p></p><p>Your relationship - you my friend have what I call an "armchair quarterback". They can scream and yell about what play should have gone on, but tell them to get off their a** and participate and they never fully "kick in". </p><p></p><p>You - you've really been running a tough road. Do you realize that according to most psychiatric professionals, you've endured just about every major stressor on a human and are still chugging along? You may need a medication tweak for some depression. I'm not sure how old you are, but have you considered "peri-menopause" as well?</p><p></p><p>Give yourself a break. Take difficult child Christmas shopping, knock around just the two of you and let him TALK to you. Find out what's bugging him the most and work on one thing at a time. Let him know that parents get stressed, fight and settle things. His recent outbursts could be reflecting your mood, husband's mood, or how the moon is alighned with the stars. If one ADHD medication gave him tics, try a different kind if he feels the medications are helping.</p><p></p><p>"Guilt is a luxury we can ill afford and it looks tacky with sneakers". - By Beth</p><p></p><p>Embrace it, accept it, and move on! :wink:</p><p></p><p>Feel better! We're all here for you!</p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 106688, member: 3814"] You know, my heart is aching for you right now. Can any more "stuff" hit the fan at once for you or what?!! My view on your "stuff": difficult child - sounds like a great kid. Why is he listed on your profile as "not tested" for the bipolar etc.? Have they been medicating without a diagnosis? I'm confused. Have you had a neuropsychologist done on him? difficult child's problems because of "you" - One thing that I often said about my kids from the day they were born (before we knew that they had disabilities)was "well, nowadays everyone blames their mom for everything, so if I'm doing my job right, they'll be "on the couch" (with a psychiatrist) when they're 21 telling them "I hate my mother BECAUSE...". Ok, so 5 was the age that I should have been talking about. The point is: if they came with an instruction manual and you ignored it, THEN it would be your fault. We each deal with life as it comes. If you perceive that you're doing something wrong: change it. Your relationship - you my friend have what I call an "armchair quarterback". They can scream and yell about what play should have gone on, but tell them to get off their a** and participate and they never fully "kick in". You - you've really been running a tough road. Do you realize that according to most psychiatric professionals, you've endured just about every major stressor on a human and are still chugging along? You may need a medication tweak for some depression. I'm not sure how old you are, but have you considered "peri-menopause" as well? Give yourself a break. Take difficult child Christmas shopping, knock around just the two of you and let him TALK to you. Find out what's bugging him the most and work on one thing at a time. Let him know that parents get stressed, fight and settle things. His recent outbursts could be reflecting your mood, husband's mood, or how the moon is alighned with the stars. If one ADHD medication gave him tics, try a different kind if he feels the medications are helping. "Guilt is a luxury we can ill afford and it looks tacky with sneakers". - By Beth Embrace it, accept it, and move on! [img]:wink:[/img] Feel better! We're all here for you! Beth [/QUOTE]
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