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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 106743"><p>Questions to answer.</p><p></p><p>difficult child began getting very angry in elementary school. He was moved from first grade to first grade (more challenging..he is bored, he is fooling around too much..getting A's)</p><p></p><p>Second grade I had requested a certain teacher. School started, he wasn't placed anywhere. Went to see the principal (interem principal..the 4th principal since K). He was very nice, placed him in the class I had requested the prior year.</p><p>Unfortunately E was also in that class. The two were identical.</p><p>Teachers said they couldn't teach,(teachers admitted they were very funny, often had to leave the class to laugh) difficult child and e had the attention of the class and difficult child had to move. WAIT...E can move, I requested this class a YEAR ago. </p><p>Mean while, counselor, suggests testing. So, difficult child is working with counselor, and school psychologist. We also are trying outside couselor again. Between laughter and anger didn't know what to do.</p><p>I walk into school one day and the NEW principal (5th one) meets me at the door and asked if I was difficult child's mother. I said yes. She introduced herself and went on to tell me how bad difficult child is. The lunchroom complaints, the library complaints, the teachers complaints,,blah,blah. I asked her if she has ever met difficult child. Her reply..No. Ask her if she knows who he is working with and why. No. I leave. I go have lunch with difficult child. Meanwhile, ask lunch ladies about him. No problems, ever. I go to library, no problems ever. Teachers..just complaint listed above. </p><p>Test results are in. Superior blah blah, blah. (oh we were so proud.) Principal tells us to move him to a different school. No.</p><p>Principal wants to move him to another class. NO. difficult child goes to school, and his desk is moved to another class. Principal says, Oh, janitor must of accidentally moved it. </p><p>School district comes in. husband, me, all school staff. Suggest moving him up to third grade. We are warned about possible social problems. WE couldn't imagine that. he is outgoing, social, gets along best with older kids. Never happen.</p><p>3rd and 4th great years. Very ODD at home.</p><p>5th grade. Disaster. TEacher would swear at him, push him, embarrass him. (Home issues now) Counselor says "nobody wants him". He becomes very, very angry, panic attacks. Thinks we are going to become homeless. Counselor brought him home on a Friday, he was lost. Anxiety breakdown is what I was told. Bring him to psychiatrist on a Saturday (special). He wanted to be admitted but no beds available. psychiatrist says bipolar. Puts him on mood stabalizer. Lamictal.</p><p>Things improved greatly. Had ups and downs but so much better.</p><p>Then you have a ten year old entering middle school. Did some not so good things to fit in.</p><p>Then seventh grade..no more of those friends, did great for a semester then quit. did nothing. Phone would ring anywhere from 10 - 15 times a day from teachers.</p><p>New IEP, program director wonderful. Said she doesn't see what others see. Her goal is for him to succeed and he will! wonderful.</p><p>Eighth grade. I asked for neuropsychologist. psychiatrist finally agreed. Childrens hospital all setup. Insurance company called, Childrens hospital dropped out of network. psychiatrist's place not covered. Nobody near accepting new patients. Checked neighboring state, they accept new patience however YOU pay upfront and YOU file the insurance. Not an option. Cannot do, not possible. </p><p></p><p>Anger seems to have dissappeared. Weaned off Lamictal per difficult child's choice. did see some withdrawls even going very very very slowly. difficult child ASKED for something for ADHD. Teachers all said he is fidgety, walks around (I don't get that. kids just walk around in the middle of teaching????)</p><p>Teachers report to psychiatrist that he is staying on task, less fidgeting. psychiatrist increases, teachers report better.</p><p></p><p>Now difficult child just sad. All because of me. I totally lose control every few months and say so many awful things. Even tell him he is the problem. If he only DID his school work.</p><p></p><p>Now, for me, not only do I deal with school a zillion times a week, I check homework or he doesn't do it. Now, please understand, husband has not even so much as slept in the same room with me since difficult child was born. I have not gone out, not been hugged, not been kissed, zippo. I deal with discipline, finances, insurance, dr. appointment's, school.easy child difficult child, and work a 12 hour shift with a 30 - 40 minute commute. husband goes to work, picks up difficult child on way home and that's it. I decorate, cook, shop. Somewhere in there I take about a 4 hour nap before work.</p><p>I cry, I am just so wanting a man in my life. i need a shoulder.</p><p>I have not had that, no kidding,no lie for 13 years.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry I am whinning. I am feeling old today. If you got through this thank you for listening. If not..I needed to vent, whine, cry. I do read up on you guys. You have been the only shoulder I have had in so many years. Just to read that you all have as much to deal with as me. Some so much more. I respect and look up to all of you.</p><p>Now, I am going to go bring my 13 year old son a birthday lunch. (still 12...I'll hold on to that until the last second) His last school day not a teen. Oh I feel old. I am going to drop off his lunch in the office. Hah..I should bring him a balloon. He would love it.</p><p>I am having a very hard time with this. My baby a teen. I did have a hysterectomy about 5 years ago due to a tumor. </p><p></p><p>Boy, if I am having a hard time I don't know what husband is doing. His entire life revolves around difficult child. And husband is much older than me.</p><p></p><p>Thank you guys. I'll leave now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 106743"] Questions to answer. difficult child began getting very angry in elementary school. He was moved from first grade to first grade (more challenging..he is bored, he is fooling around too much..getting A's) Second grade I had requested a certain teacher. School started, he wasn't placed anywhere. Went to see the principal (interem principal..the 4th principal since K). He was very nice, placed him in the class I had requested the prior year. Unfortunately E was also in that class. The two were identical. Teachers said they couldn't teach,(teachers admitted they were very funny, often had to leave the class to laugh) difficult child and e had the attention of the class and difficult child had to move. WAIT...E can move, I requested this class a YEAR ago. Mean while, counselor, suggests testing. So, difficult child is working with counselor, and school psychologist. We also are trying outside couselor again. Between laughter and anger didn't know what to do. I walk into school one day and the NEW principal (5th one) meets me at the door and asked if I was difficult child's mother. I said yes. She introduced herself and went on to tell me how bad difficult child is. The lunchroom complaints, the library complaints, the teachers complaints,,blah,blah. I asked her if she has ever met difficult child. Her reply..No. Ask her if she knows who he is working with and why. No. I leave. I go have lunch with difficult child. Meanwhile, ask lunch ladies about him. No problems, ever. I go to library, no problems ever. Teachers..just complaint listed above. Test results are in. Superior blah blah, blah. (oh we were so proud.) Principal tells us to move him to a different school. No. Principal wants to move him to another class. NO. difficult child goes to school, and his desk is moved to another class. Principal says, Oh, janitor must of accidentally moved it. School district comes in. husband, me, all school staff. Suggest moving him up to third grade. We are warned about possible social problems. WE couldn't imagine that. he is outgoing, social, gets along best with older kids. Never happen. 3rd and 4th great years. Very ODD at home. 5th grade. Disaster. TEacher would swear at him, push him, embarrass him. (Home issues now) Counselor says "nobody wants him". He becomes very, very angry, panic attacks. Thinks we are going to become homeless. Counselor brought him home on a Friday, he was lost. Anxiety breakdown is what I was told. Bring him to psychiatrist on a Saturday (special). He wanted to be admitted but no beds available. psychiatrist says bipolar. Puts him on mood stabalizer. Lamictal. Things improved greatly. Had ups and downs but so much better. Then you have a ten year old entering middle school. Did some not so good things to fit in. Then seventh grade..no more of those friends, did great for a semester then quit. did nothing. Phone would ring anywhere from 10 - 15 times a day from teachers. New IEP, program director wonderful. Said she doesn't see what others see. Her goal is for him to succeed and he will! wonderful. Eighth grade. I asked for neuropsychologist. psychiatrist finally agreed. Childrens hospital all setup. Insurance company called, Childrens hospital dropped out of network. psychiatrist's place not covered. Nobody near accepting new patients. Checked neighboring state, they accept new patience however YOU pay upfront and YOU file the insurance. Not an option. Cannot do, not possible. Anger seems to have dissappeared. Weaned off Lamictal per difficult child's choice. did see some withdrawls even going very very very slowly. difficult child ASKED for something for ADHD. Teachers all said he is fidgety, walks around (I don't get that. kids just walk around in the middle of teaching????) Teachers report to psychiatrist that he is staying on task, less fidgeting. psychiatrist increases, teachers report better. Now difficult child just sad. All because of me. I totally lose control every few months and say so many awful things. Even tell him he is the problem. If he only DID his school work. Now, for me, not only do I deal with school a zillion times a week, I check homework or he doesn't do it. Now, please understand, husband has not even so much as slept in the same room with me since difficult child was born. I have not gone out, not been hugged, not been kissed, zippo. I deal with discipline, finances, insurance, dr. appointment's, school.easy child difficult child, and work a 12 hour shift with a 30 - 40 minute commute. husband goes to work, picks up difficult child on way home and that's it. I decorate, cook, shop. Somewhere in there I take about a 4 hour nap before work. I cry, I am just so wanting a man in my life. i need a shoulder. I have not had that, no kidding,no lie for 13 years. I am so sorry I am whinning. I am feeling old today. If you got through this thank you for listening. If not..I needed to vent, whine, cry. I do read up on you guys. You have been the only shoulder I have had in so many years. Just to read that you all have as much to deal with as me. Some so much more. I respect and look up to all of you. Now, I am going to go bring my 13 year old son a birthday lunch. (still 12...I'll hold on to that until the last second) His last school day not a teen. Oh I feel old. I am going to drop off his lunch in the office. Hah..I should bring him a balloon. He would love it. I am having a very hard time with this. My baby a teen. I did have a hysterectomy about 5 years ago due to a tumor. Boy, if I am having a hard time I don't know what husband is doing. His entire life revolves around difficult child. And husband is much older than me. Thank you guys. I'll leave now. [/QUOTE]
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