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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 106792" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>Believe me, I am not the relationship expert. But, the one thing I took from my short counseling experience was to finally start speaking my mind and STOP rescueing people. You have no idea how hard this is to do for me. So, about a year ago I started. husband did <strong>NOT</strong> like it at all. (He still doesn't.) I literally told him what I was planning to do. It is a day by day process.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child sounds like he has a lot of positives going on his end. Figeting in class? Heck...I've had students who have my permission to stand and wander during class. I put them in the back so it doesn't bother other students, but I could care less if they need to pace. Not everyone is as sedimentary as me. :sleeping: </p><p></p><p>After 22 years of teaching, I've seen it all. I've had the kid who doesn't do one lick of homework, yet can ace any test. You can't deny the intelligence. A good teacher's job is to help that child fit into this world...not push a useless piece of paper in every day. I still remember this kid. He had more of an impact on me than I did on him. I wanted to knock him upside the head because he was 10X more smart than me and had the ...you know what to stand up for what he was. I had to respect that.</p><p></p><p>I hate to say it (all teachers in the US will hate me) but come to a truce with your son. If you are confident he knows the material, ask him to do just what it takes to pass the class. In many classes...that is next to nothing. Take the argument out of the home and let him take charge.</p><p></p><p>Finally, if you are staying in a loveless relationship because of difficult child, my heart breaks for you. Kids are not stupid. They know exactly what is going on. Sometimes it's happier being alone and in peace than being with someone who doesn't even recognize you are in the room.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 106792, member: 179"] Believe me, I am not the relationship expert. But, the one thing I took from my short counseling experience was to finally start speaking my mind and STOP rescueing people. You have no idea how hard this is to do for me. So, about a year ago I started. husband did [b]NOT[/b] like it at all. (He still doesn't.) I literally told him what I was planning to do. It is a day by day process. Your difficult child sounds like he has a lot of positives going on his end. Figeting in class? Heck...I've had students who have my permission to stand and wander during class. I put them in the back so it doesn't bother other students, but I could care less if they need to pace. Not everyone is as sedimentary as me. [img]:sleeping:[/img] After 22 years of teaching, I've seen it all. I've had the kid who doesn't do one lick of homework, yet can ace any test. You can't deny the intelligence. A good teacher's job is to help that child fit into this world...not push a useless piece of paper in every day. I still remember this kid. He had more of an impact on me than I did on him. I wanted to knock him upside the head because he was 10X more smart than me and had the ...you know what to stand up for what he was. I had to respect that. I hate to say it (all teachers in the US will hate me) but come to a truce with your son. If you are confident he knows the material, ask him to do just what it takes to pass the class. In many classes...that is next to nothing. Take the argument out of the home and let him take charge. Finally, if you are staying in a loveless relationship because of difficult child, my heart breaks for you. Kids are not stupid. They know exactly what is going on. Sometimes it's happier being alone and in peace than being with someone who doesn't even recognize you are in the room. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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