Making it through the holidays

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by inthestorm, Nov 8, 2015.

  1. inthestorm

    inthestorm New Member

    My mom informed me that because grandma died last year she rreally didnt want to be at home, they decided they would come to my house. Ok that great! Then she says they would be bringing my grandson along. Cool..even better, Then she mentions they haevent told my daughter the plans. What if she wants her son for the holiday?? Probably better let mom know aboit all these plannings taking place. And m y son....I dont evevnthink tjey want to invite him :C He has been th black sheep for a while but i dont eve get to see him and would like him to come.. Its starting to get awkward and I dont wasnt to not stand up for my kids, I dont want anyone left out because of the past,not sure what to say. help!!
  2. New Leaf

    New Leaf Well-Known Member

    Hi inthestorm, I had to review your past thread to get up to speed,

    this is from October 8th

    I hope things have improved with your relationship and your son has received help.

    Forgive me for bringing this up, but he has threatened you and hit you in the past. Perhaps your family does not want to risk the possible misbehavior?

    The holiday season has different meanings for many folks. One thing is that we long and yearn for our family to come together.

    If this is safe, your relationship with your son has vastly improved, meaning he is receiving counseling and has been kind and loving towards you, then by all means , try to include him, it is your house.

    On the other hand, if the opposite is true, then please think carefully. What you posted is just from a month ago. It is not a normal, or right thing for a son to speak of murdering his mother, nor give suicide threats.

    Please think carefully, and weigh your decisions not on the glitz and pizazz and spirit of the holiday season, but on what has happened, what steps have been taken to make amends and change.

    Your safety is of utmost importance.

    Please be careful while giving this some thought.