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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 739620" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>New Start, dont feel bad. You nailed it. Easy, balanced adult children are cinches to be good friends with. I have that with Jumper. She is always choosimg to be over and we dont fight. She chose a great man to marry. She doesnt ask for much except love. She has always been easy going. We have lots in common and do stuff together.</p><p></p><p>My oldest son is harder. He is self absorbed. We are close but our relationship is more about him than anything/anyone else. We are close as far as in daily contact bit its not like my daighter. I know all about him and my grandson but he doesnt know or care much about us. I am sort of glad he is in another state. He can be draining.</p><p></p><p>I am close to the other kids. Sonic lives near and checks in every day. Short, friendly check ins. We see him often. Princess is in Chicago. I dont see her or talk to her as much as Jumper. She is busy with my grand too. But we have really good talks. And sometimes we argue. But it always ends with hugs. She has a good heart.</p><p></p><p>Every mother/child relationship is different, and definitely some are smoother.</p><p></p><p>I had no relationship with my mom. She didnt want one and in retrospect she was not good for me or me for her. I feel she didnt like me and was abusive and she pushed me away (shrug). When she passed, i had already grieved her long before. She disinherited me and it is what it is. I choose not to speak to my sister so my brother wont speak to me.</p><p> He only speaks to me if I speak to sister. It is what it is.</p><p></p><p> There are reasons for the actions of others that we never know. I dont judge who talks to who. Sometimes we want to have a relationship, but we just cant for differing reasons.</p><p></p><p>You are doing all you can with a very difficult child. You are a rock star. You can not make your daughter easy to have a relationship with. But you have done all you can. More. A condo. A business. Money. Honestly my kids never had close to that. But you wanted to help.i dont blame you for this relationship struggle.</p><p></p><p>I dont blame your friend for hers either. I am fairly certain she was a good person who tried her best. Trying your best doesnt always mean a happy ending.</p><p></p><p>So sorry for your losses. Love and light! Hang in there! We care about you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 739620, member: 1550"] New Start, dont feel bad. You nailed it. Easy, balanced adult children are cinches to be good friends with. I have that with Jumper. She is always choosimg to be over and we dont fight. She chose a great man to marry. She doesnt ask for much except love. She has always been easy going. We have lots in common and do stuff together. My oldest son is harder. He is self absorbed. We are close but our relationship is more about him than anything/anyone else. We are close as far as in daily contact bit its not like my daighter. I know all about him and my grandson but he doesnt know or care much about us. I am sort of glad he is in another state. He can be draining. I am close to the other kids. Sonic lives near and checks in every day. Short, friendly check ins. We see him often. Princess is in Chicago. I dont see her or talk to her as much as Jumper. She is busy with my grand too. But we have really good talks. And sometimes we argue. But it always ends with hugs. She has a good heart. Every mother/child relationship is different, and definitely some are smoother. I had no relationship with my mom. She didnt want one and in retrospect she was not good for me or me for her. I feel she didnt like me and was abusive and she pushed me away (shrug). When she passed, i had already grieved her long before. She disinherited me and it is what it is. I choose not to speak to my sister so my brother wont speak to me. He only speaks to me if I speak to sister. It is what it is. There are reasons for the actions of others that we never know. I dont judge who talks to who. Sometimes we want to have a relationship, but we just cant for differing reasons. You are doing all you can with a very difficult child. You are a rock star. You can not make your daughter easy to have a relationship with. But you have done all you can. More. A condo. A business. Money. Honestly my kids never had close to that. But you wanted to help.i dont blame you for this relationship struggle. I dont blame your friend for hers either. I am fairly certain she was a good person who tried her best. Trying your best doesnt always mean a happy ending. So sorry for your losses. Love and light! Hang in there! We care about you! [/QUOTE]
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